How do you let down a women how is after you without making yourself look like a wanker to her and her friends or associates, some of which you like and want to game?

ANY IDEAS??? PLEASE...

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You have to somehow let her down without making yourself look like a jerk. It's pretty much impossible, but here's what I usually do:

Her: "Hey you're way cute, we should go out sometime!"
Me: "Hey thanks, you're too kind! I really appreciate your offer, but I don't think we'd be very compatible. Thanks for the offer though, you're a sweetheart!"

Either way she's going to have her feelings hurt because when someone asks you to go out they're putting their feelings out on the line. There's really no polite way of doing it :\

Try a compliment followed by rejection (politely, of course). That's really the only way of doing it. A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down, ya know?

yeah, sounds good. I'll give it a go!

Thanks.

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Do that, and if she is STILL going after you and making you look like a guy that is surrounded by sub-par women, then do this...

You: Here's my number babe. If I give you this promise me you'll leave me alone with my friends for the rest of the night, and give me a call later, Okay?

Her: OKAY!

You: 867-5309

Her: Thank You!

And close with a hug. And for those of you who don't understand why doing this should entertain you a little by doing it. Please give a listen to this...

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Alright, same problem, no idea how to handle it.

There's this one girl, really not attractive at all, with a few hot friends. I know every book says don't build attraction with the ugly one, but I did. I didn't even know it, but I did. Now I'm stuck. I don't want to let her down too hard because she invited me to this awesome party, not to mention her friends. But she's super agressive (fbook status - married to me) and really getting annoying. This is school too by the way, so I can't just blow her off and move on.

Looks like compliment - rejection seems like my only option, huh.

[quote="Tom_"Maybe""]. And for those of you who don't understand why doing this should entertain you a little by doing it. Please give a listen to this...
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Damn it Tom! There is no way now for me to get those 3:43 of my time! :lol:


Back to OP:

Well I might be less subtile then others but I usually go with something like: " you know what you are pretty cool, and I think we might of made good friends had it started another way, but I just don't feel any chemistry towards you."

A bit cold, but not hard.

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LJBF Her, worked on several females for me.

I always say stuff like "right now I'm just looking for friends, I don't want a gf at this point in my life"

(then wait a week or two and game the other girls)

or say things like "i am not completely over my ex"

done that plenty of times too. making them feel like its not THEM that theres something wrong with, will always yield a better outcome. If they feel part of a group and not like theres something wrong with them specifically, they will be let down 1000000000x easier.

Although I did have a few girls tell me they'd wait. That never turned out too good. Hmm maybe you shouldn't listen to me lol

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I never say anything other than the absolute truth in situations like this. I do it as "nicely as possible" (hey could be another pivot)but it get done in a very clear way.

Saying something like "i'm not looking for a girlfriend/relationship" or "I am not over my ex" and then gaming other girls later is just a little jacked up. It could end up lowering your value to not only her but her possibly very do-able friends.

Last time it went something like this.

Me and my friend went out for a few drinks and my friend goes to the bathroom. Right away a girl comes up and she's, to be blunt, fat and obesity happens to be a HUGE turn-off for me, mainly since I used to be a bit rounded in the corners, so to speak. It conveys a lazy, complain-y lifestyle to me, since that's what I used to be.

Anyhow, she starts to touch my friends glass.

Her: "Oh... drinking whiskey?"
Me: "Yeah... -my friend- is." (Putting weight on the part that my friend is, which worked since she let go of his glass)
Her: "A bit cocky, are we?"
Me: "Yep."
Her: "A bit rude, even?"
Me: "Most likely."
Her: "What? You're saying you'd rather talk to your friend than talk to me?"
Me: (raises my eyebrows and nod once) "That's exactly what I'm saying."

She leaves and my friend comes back wondering what that was about. I complain about how fat women seem to smell me out since I work with fast-food. He laughs, we have a great time.

Another time an old, fat woman started to dance against me while I was watching the guy on the scene and without moving I simply gave her a smile while I looked at her until she left... which didn't take too long.

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The last one worked because I didn't convey any interest and none of us were talking. Body-language comes a long way.

The first one was probably a bit rude, but people who try to mooch off of me or others generally get that behaviour from me.

I think it's better to be direct about it. "Look... I'm not interested."