| Study Zen Buddhism and start reading books about sex, sexual positions, and such. Read, read, read. This post is going to just be blunt, just an FYI if your reading this at work.
Once you learn a bit about meditation itself, a tool which is indispensable to those who have decided to learn it, start to learn a technique called edging. Its where you bring yourself to the point of orgasm but don't allow yourself to cross the threshold. Eventually you can use your meditation skills to analyze what trains of thoughts cause you to reach that threshold, as thought in combination with sensation is what causes orgasm, not always sensation alone. Eventually you can always identify the threshold and know exactly when to stop to not cum.
You will also notice that this will give you far more powerful orgasms than just jacking off for a minute and being done with it. It only gets better and more refined as time goes by as well, since orgasmic control and amplification is a skill.
When making love then, you learn to clear your mind of thoughts. You dont think "God her body is so hot, her skin so smooth, her pussy so tight" etc... because these thoughts will send you reeling into orgasm. You just exist and experience her. Focus on pleasuring her, refine your technique, pay attention to what she is enjoying, what she responds to.
When your about to cum pull out for a second, after a few times of this you will notice that you reach a point where you are experiencing a LOT of pleasure. This is a inner state thats hard to describe to people who are not adepts of any sexual traditions, but basically its an intense flow of energy which is an extremely slow build up to orgasm. With frequent partners, or if your just really intuitive and have a connection with someone new, you can learn to amplify their orgasms for them, essentially "edging them" and bringing them to this place with you. However you have to learn how to identify their own orgasmic energy and not stop beyond their threshold!!! This would be the equivalent of a girl going down on you then, right when your about to cum, she just stops, destroying the greatness of your orgasm. Thus if she is cumming and you have gone to far, just keep going, you can always give her another one, but its very hard to undo the frustration they experience when you deprive them of any of them once they go beyond threshold.
This is how you give women mind blowing orgasms and multiple orgasms, and how you can experience these things for yourself. You would be surprised to learn what your capable of training your body to do and experience. _________________ Programmer of reality.
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