ive been trundeling through the forum and everyone tells you how to approach women. talk. k close f close anal close what ever close.

but none tells you how to diffuse situations when you fuckup in a relationship.

for example. i insulted a girl that im close with because she and her mate insulted my friend bg style behind his back... now what do i do. ive told her that i like her and that it was she insulted my friend and hurt me... what now?

could a pua answer this?

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Look...it's simple. If a girl does something rude to you or any of your friends, then the right thing to do is to confront it head on with ruthless abandon.

For Example:

When I was at a comedy bar called "Snickerz" Saturday night, I was having a great time having several drinks. If you’ve been to bars you always know that there will be people there that will have more than you (and can’t handle it). This night happened to bring in two women, a cute blond and a pretty hot brunette. These women appeared to be older than me (not by much) but they looked like little high school girls running around the bar, running into people and pushing others as they were storming by trying to get wherever they needed to go – which was probably nowhere important.

The thing with attractive women in bars is that there is this stigma that they can get away with whatever they want because they are attractive and no one will discipline them or hold them accountable. Men (and women too) affirm this belief by not doing anything about it. Well, we need to band together and stop this epidemic of inappropriate social behavior! And here’s how. Don’t take anyone’s shit, men and women involved. If you know that someone is being out of line and it’s affecting you, don’t be afraid to speak up and express your feelings about it.

What sparked this reaction was when I was talking to my friend and the blond was running across the room. She careened into me and made me spill some of my drink on my buddy’s shoes. It was one moment and I already had enough. As I turned around and saw her at the bar ordering another unnecessary drink, I went right up to her and noticed that she had her iPhone poking out of her back pocket. I did what any other guy wouldn’t do. I took it. She turned around and immediately said to me, “Don’t you ever fucking touch me like that ever again and you really need to give me my phone back right now.”

I’ve never seen a woman with such a serious look on her face. I just smirked and said right back to her, “come get it,” as I raised her phone into the air. Then after about a three second stare down, she smiled and then jumped after the phone, without success. She was getting too much into it so I had to control her excitement. So I asked her, “is this fun? You having a good time being ridiculous?” Once she realized what I had said, she stopped jumping and you could have been almost seen her body language close up in embarrassment. She turned around and faced the bar. Not trying to be much of a jerk, I casually gave her back the phone and said, “The reason why I even came over here is because you bumped into me and made me spill my drink on my friend over there. You really should be more aware of what’s going on. It’s not acceptable behavior. A cute girl like you should be able to present herself better than that.” She turned around, looked up at me and almost without hesitation said, “wow, I’m sorry about that. Did you want me to get you another drink? You’re really cool. What’s your name?”

I guess, the moral of the story is to not take anybody's shit. And what you did might not have been the right thing to do. Don't insult somebody just because they did so to you or one of your friends. Just simply express your feelings to them in a civilized manner, and you'll get much better results than if you try fighting fire with fire. It may not be too late to rekindle the relationship, but it all depends on what you do.

If I were you I'd just say, "Look, I was out of line when I insulted you, but you've got to realize that you insulted my friend and behavior like that don't fly with me and I'm sure you'd feel the same way if I pulled some immature bullshit like that on one of your friends, now wouldn't you? See I'm talking to you like I'd talk to any of my other friends, and if any of my friends were doing anything stupid in my mind, then I'm not afraid to point out how dumb they're acting. So you should grow up a little and act like an adult, then maybe we'll hang out sometime, but not until you apologize to my friend, okay?"

It's as easy as that. And if she tries to defend herself for her actions, then just ignore her and walk away. A girl like that is no one worth going through drama for.

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Bravo. That is completely correct. Whether it is an ugly woman, a good looking woman, a man, ... everybody should respect you. It doesn't matter who the other person is. The only thing that matters in my life is my happiness. If someone messes with it, I will tell them.

I can't believe how even average looking women think that they own the world. A few weeks ago I was watching a movie in the cinema and a stupid girl was just putting her feet on the back of my chair. The pressure of her feet in my back wasn't really comfortable. I know that I should turn around and tell her to stop doing that. I didn't. What I did do is put my body very straight so that she couldn't watch the movie lying in her chair. In order to see the movie she had to sit straight too. And it was really annoying her. At some moment she was even telling her boyfriend: "Why does he has to sit like that ?". And a bit later she was even saying something like "C'mon go sit down.". The boyfriend told her to shut up. What strikes me here is that she is plainly annoying me but she doesn't care a bit. But when I annoy her back she doesn't even realize why I am annoying her. She even feels like some big injustice has come upon her. That is how women are nowadays and the reason is that majority of men are a bunch of losers with no self respect.

You don't care about that girl. Your friend is much more important than her. What do you think a girl is going to do to you when you mistreat one of her friends ? She is going to tell you and she might even stop hanging around with you. You do the same. There is no reason for a girl to be such a b*tch that she has to insult people behind the back. Girls like that are not even worthy to consider as friends in the first place because she might do the same with you.

thanks guys that was real interesting and helpful. i said something along the lines of what you suggested. she said

"you obviously dont know me v. well because im really sensitive and take everything to heart"

so i said " i want to get to know you, id love to spend time with you and see how sensitive you are. and how you take things to heart that are good and not what i said that i didnt mean

find me when you want to talk"

I then text her saying

"your no fun wen your moody"

she said "im not moody"

i said "well your smile isnt v. impressive"

she said "not to you it isnt"

so i said "least your angry face is cute"




wtf do i do. im a fuck up lol.

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I think you might have missed an important part of Tom's post...

[quote="Tom_"Maybe""] And if she tries to defend herself for her actions, then just ignore her and walk away. A girl like that is no one worth going through drama for.[/quote]


Why did you feel the need to text her after that?

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what should i say... i like this girl. but the dramas not worth it. but i cant leave it like me being defeated. it feels shit. ive commited way too much and shes flipped the situation round on me to make me look bad. what shall i do?

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