Hi guys,

Basically I met a new girl this past weekend. I was visiting some friends at university and so a whole load of us went down together.

Here's my (amateur view) on how it is...........

Over the weekend I've noticed that she seems to be looking at me fairly often when im not looking at her..as in I almost catch her out the corner of my eye..then when I look at her..she holds it for a bit sometimes..then looks away. She's done this a fair few times..and so I decided to do it to her a bit..fairly often in fact when we catch ourselves staring, we start talking..rather than ignoring..or moreover she talks to me..

Me, her and 2 other guys were out shopping, just walking around town. We spend a lot of time walking and talking beside each other, leaving the other two alone. We went and got some coffee etc. and so all seemed fairly comfortable. I experimented a bit and decided to walk a bit behind her on once instance..and she looked behind to see where I was..and continued to walk next to me..as if the others weren't even there. I did this a few times because I found it funny how she kept looking out for me lol.

I'm also pretty sure she said I had a cute face at the table with other mates around..she said we make a good team.

Errm, that's about it...she added me on fbk when I got home..had a friend request and knew it was going to be her..and that brings us to now.. lol

From here..i'm not sure what to do next.. Thing is she's still at school..and im at a university. But my university is only 30 minutes from where she (and the area I) lives in. She added me on fbk..I added her on msn..so far no contact has been made in 24-36 hours.

Anyone have a quick fired plan to get me started on this one?

I was thinking I'm going to wait till monday evening (tomorrow evening)..so 2 days until I last spoke to her..which would show im not needy or anything..then start initiating a bit of convo..bit of teasing and that sort of thing? Then I was going to plan on asking her out for some coffee but maybe im thinking too far ahead!

What should I do next? Thanks.

Hey Dan, it seems like she's already into you, you just gotta work up your kino - a good palm reading is fantastic for it (you can simply google it and learn basics)

I think you are right on the money with asking her out for a coffee, if she is old enough to go out for a drink - then do that, but a date - isolated with her would be great.

call / text her, don't msg her on facebook - its a step backwards.. just bring up the last time you met:
"i was thinking about you.. i had a great time yesterday, etc etc - i'm free later on today (you have to be assertive) i want you to join me for _____"

You're going to have to go direct, in-direct game is more for a first meeting / go in under the radar attraction, but seeing as you are already getting vibes that she is clearly attracted to you.. you can be a little bit more forward.

good hunting, -illusionist-

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Hey dude thanks for the reply. However at the moment, I don;t have her mobile number :/. Is it essential I start the talking over a call or text rather than facebook and msn?

aaah, right.. now that is a bit of bother. In my concept of day gaming girls, an insta-date is realistically the first thing you go for.. then her number.

If an insta-date isn't going to happen, in this case - you had two guys following you around the whole time.. then you should get her number.

I don't like messaging girls on facebook for two reasons.. its more or less an over glorified e-mail.. and it show pictures of you in very stupid scenarios..
I prefer to have thier attention there and then, in an order of priority; its Call -> Text -> Msn.. I would consider something pretty flawed in my sarging of a target if my only means of communication is facebook.

Use the best of your situation.. get her on msn.. (and check for her number on facebook.. some people have them on it)

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"They were right when they said "just be yourself" they just never told you what "self" to be.." - Gunwitch

OK - checked her facebook, she hasn't got her number on there.

Maybe if i waited till tomorrow evening (next time i assume she will be on msn after school)..and catch her on there? seeing as that will be more one to one talking rather than jus writing crap on her fb wall.

Is it a problem for me to ask for her number over Msn? (perhaps after ive delivered some routines or something).

Thing is...I can't do any of this Kino stuff until I see her next... and she is at a different school than me (im at uni)..therefore my idea of coffee came into play..and from then on i could do the palm reading, and some other stuff as i go.

I've never had a problem with asking a girls number on msn if i needed it.. if you're going for a direct approach, could try saying something along the lines of;
"hey, give me your number, i really hate this msn thing.. its so impersonal, i want to hear your beautiful voice again.."
(I prefer more direct game, i think it would be useful for you to read some in-direct gaming methods if you wish - it really is a personal preferance)

and remember, routines are pretty difficult to deliver effectivly online.. they don't have the same impact as face to face.

hahah!.. i am fully aware that kino isn't possible online.. god, it's nearly 3am for me, and i'm laughing.. thank you for that..
palm reading, hand massage, some kino games; its all useful stuff to really escalate the mood.. you've got tonight to read up on it.

Get her number, organise a date, seeing as you're new to this - read up on some mid game / kino / DHV posts, game her at the cafe - remember, don't use any opener routines.. they are just confusing to someone you've already met.. because they really arn't good to keep conversation flowing..

when you leave the place.. if you've done it right - you both will feel at ease holding eachothers hands when you leave.. if you are at that point.. the the k-close will most definatly be on the cards for when it's time to part ways..

take it slow if you want to make a real meaningful relationship..

-illusionist

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"They were right when they said "just be yourself" they just never told you what "self" to be.." - Gunwitch

Thanks for all the info dude. i really appreciate it.

Thing is..before this girl I had a rejection and it took me a while to get over it..so I'm sort of hoping this works out.. I just hope the stuff i mentioned in my first post sort of means something...because before a girl had given me hints and i got the wrong end of the stick...but yes..i will let you know on how this develops!

now Dan!.. there is one thing you MUST learn to actually start coming to grips with Approach Anxiety (which everyone start out with), Social anxieties, hang ups, rejection, failed sarges, and total complete blowouts..

it is quite simply.. "do not give a shit"..

i know it's a hard concept to get your head around, but in the end - but not actually giving a shit about the outcome will get rid of anxieties about going out and meeting others.. because if this approach fails, reflect back on your attempt and work from it.

and remember, if you are so distraught about being shot out of the water from a girl you have a crush on, thats one-itis.. defiantly something you dont want.

here is a link on YT of a few PUA's who i took wise words from


[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lwuRyAQC8uw[/youtube]

tell me how it goes!..

-illusionist

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"They were right when they said "just be yourself" they just never told you what "self" to be.." - Gunwitch