Is this a good idea? Is it necessary cause I might suck the first time? Does the answer change if its a relationship or a one night stand? BTW, I am a freshman in college.

Look, she might look for a reason why you're still a virgin, and come up with some negative things, if you're picking up a one-night-stand who is a stranger. If you really love a girl (and she loves you) you can explain why you are, you can tell her you're not like other guys who go to bed with any girl etc etc. and you can make her feel special if you actually want to lose your virginity with her.

But if you're going for a one-night-stand i'd not say you're a virgin tbh, because these girls aren't looking for love but for good sex.

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, keep that in mind. Many friends of mine lost their virginity to a girl they didn't really love, nor a good looking one, and personally i think that's lame. Other people respect this, if you're confident and not shy about being it. I'm also a virgin & freshman, and i barely pick up chicks (although, when I do, all my mates are jealous on how gorgeous she is) and i'm also not lying to friends about it. I want to save that first moment for a SUPER hot babe i actually feel something for.

Hope this helps !

yea ty that makes sense

If i was getting one night stands than i wouldnt tell the girl that im a virgin. Im an alpha male, i have never even BEEN a virgin!
Im not sure how it would benefit me by telling the one night stand stranger that im a vigin. Because i want to tell her before we have sex that i might suck at it? Because i want compassion?

In the other hand if i was a virgin and been dateing this girl for a long time ( without having sex with her ) maybe than i could tell her because we would have a stronger bond between us. After all, a meaningfull relationship is all about shareing personal stuff with another human being of whom you trust and share your feelings with.

[ Johnny B ]

_________________
When you lose, don't lose the lesson. ~Author Unknown
Fear has a large shadow, but he himself is small. ~Ruth Gendler

In the other hand some girls love to take guys virginity, its their fetish. Anyway, what Im saying is that telling her you are virgin can be a turn on in some cases, but usually its turn off

Chances are that if you're a virgin, you're not looking for a one night stand.

Through highschool and 2 years afterwards, even though I was dating cheerleaders, Hooters waitresses, 2 strippers and some models, I was a virgin. I was raised with the belief that sex is something special.

I still did everything else (except penetration) but I wouldn't tell a girl that I was a virgin unless we got into a serious relationship.

I wound up losing it to a girl who I dated for a year 1/2 and who I was in love with. I'm glad I waited for her.

So my advice is..if you're just looking to screw around, don't tell her. If you're getting into a serious relationship, tell her and explain. She'll understand.

Most girls are actually cool with it if you just be honest with them. It's true, at least in my expierence and the expierence of my friends.

_________________
"Intelligence is nothing. Action is everything." -Tony Robbins

I didn't get laid until I stopped telling girls I was a virgin lol. Yeah you might suck, and I'm guessing you're scared she might guess that she was your first? She won't. There are plenty of guys that are not virgins that still suck in bed. Also, why would you wanna warn her that you suck in bed? How the hell are you supposed to get good in bed if you fuck your chances up by telling girls that you suck? The girl I lost it to actually said I was really good, she still has no idea that she was my first. I don't think you really need to tell them. I remember when that first girl asked me if I was, I told her ''yeah I'm a total virgin, sorry I'm gonna be a priest someday, no sex til marriage I'm afraid. So are you rich? I need a rich wife''. She must have seen that as me being sarcastic and assumed the opposite lol, but anyway I don't think you really have to tell them.

I remember in the summer between high school and college, I was still a virgin. I met this girl and we were kinda like friends, but I was trying to score with her, but had no clue. She kinda liked me, but resisted because I was totally clueless despite the fact that she was pretty skanky. However, after a little while she did get more interested in me. She had a friend, and I hooked her up with my friend, one night the three of them were hanging out, smoking weed or whatever, and the girls asked my friend about me, about how many girls I'd been with, and he totally blew it. He just froze up and couldn't think of a lie fast enough, and they automatically knew I was a virgin. Later on, we're hanging out, and she tells me that she won't sleep with me now because I was a virgin. This was abosuletly infuriating and so ironic to me at the time. After that, I made a vow that I would never let anyone else ever know again that I was a virgin, especially so since college was so close to now. Anyway, fast forward a couple more years of virginity, and I met a girl that I liked (but she was way more into me, another story entirely) and I played it off that I had been laid before. So eventually, we have sex after a couple weeks of dating and that was that for my virginity. A couple months later I told her I was in fact a virgin prior to meeting her, and she was a little pissed at first, but I told her the story and was very understanding.

Someone mentioned here that some girls may have a fetish for virgins, but those are probably rare. I've heard of PUAs pretending to be virgins in certain situations to get a one night stand, but that is pretty advanced game, or a fun challenge if you've become a MPUA.

No, you dont want to tell them you're a virgin and its probably a bad idea for others you know to know this because if they know, it'll backfire and girls won't want to be with you. Trust me, I know because I am one.

Right as you put it in, just say "Well I am glad I got past that." Pickup your bags and walk out the door. No kidding that is what I did.

_________________
I am your god. By the way, life has no meaning; any meaning you add to it is subjective.

If you're in a deeply emotional relationship with a girl, she should already know you're a virgin. Remember in a situation like that you should assume you're going to be with that person for extended periods of time, and if you put up a facade, you'll be giving her false impressions which will lead her to fall in love (or not, w/e happens) with someone you aren't and when she DOES find that out it'll make the relationship fail and burn. You want her to fall in love with who you are. Being a virgin is part of that. I didn't lose my v-card till I was a few months into being 18, don't feel pressured.

As for one night stands, you're sarging, so remember your alpha mentality as mentioned above. "I don't know this girl, why the fuck would I care what she thinks?" If she's taking part in a one night stand, don't feel guilty for this mentality! SHE DOESN'T MATTER TO YOU AND YOU DON'T MATTER TO HER! If she is fucking you the same night she meets you, she's after the same thing as you! A quick fix fuck!

In the end, think relative to how many more girls there are out there after your first fuck. Even if she thinks you sucked, it doesn't matter, cuz she's definitely not the last girl you'll fuck, and in a week, she won't remember it at all.

You know, it's probably best that you be straight forward about being a virgin if you actually want to date her. I lied about it, I didn't suffer any repercussions, but in the end, it really wasn't necessary. She understood why I had lied about it, and in fact, had taken the virginity of about 5 guys before me, so it probably would not have mattered. Later on, I told most of my college friends the truth, and they were very understanding of the situation.

But then again, back to that skanky girl, we weren't going to have just a one night stand, just more of a casual, open, friends with benefits sorta thing. So it really depends on the girl.

I like to tell girls that I'm a virgin (always in a half jokingly, half cracked smile kinda way) even though I'm not. Usually if you're running good game and they are interested in you, they will call you out on it right away and say "No, you aren't, there's no way" blah blah. Sometimes I just hold my stance and say yep, usually they will be able to tell i'm joking.