I am in a fairly unique position in that I am trying to do this from a wheelchair. Most people assume that I was in an accident, so I don't look disabled, though I was born with it - like an unfortunate version of Maybelline. I also have a muscular torso and try and keep fit, so I do the best with what I have

This has, of course, affected my abilities with women. Girls weren't particularly interested in me when I was younger, as they preferred the rugby players, and indeed would often ask me sympathetically if I could actually have sex, i'm just telling you this so you know where i am coming from.

The point when I realised I had to sort this out was about a year and a half ago, when I was at a friend's birthday party. She was (is) really hot, and people say I am a good conversationalist, so of course I tried to talk her into bed, and of course it didn't work. The low point of the night was when she said she wanted to dance, but would get some of her friends to 'look after me.'

I got horrendously drunk and promised myself that that wasn't going to happen again. And actually, my game has since has got pretty good - often if I am on a bus with my friends I can flirt and number close a girl and my friends sort of look on in disbelief. Everyone now assumes I have this great skill with women, which to an extent is true, in that I have absolutely no approach anxiety and really enjoy flirting with women, but i still have some problems that I was hoping you'd be able to help with.

Firstly, in my experience, the wheelchair makes it difficult to establish a sexual vibe. If you flirt sexually, then the girls are more than happy to engage in it, because as they view me as pretty asexual, despite all evidence to the contrary, then it doesn't mean anything. This is why I think I can number close so easily, because who wouldn't want to give their number to a new gay best friend type of guy that flirts with them?

Secondly, in a club, it can be very difficult to maintain a conversation and kino if you are sitting and the girls are standing. A dancefloor is typical of this. Everyone is happy to dance with me because actually they appreciate the fact that I am there - I don't know about you, but I never see other disabled people out, so its a novelty for people, and then I can make them laugh for a bit and I'm their new best friend - lots of cool guy handshakes and stuff from the guys and hugs from the girls, but in the end, they often dance off, or talk to a guy at their level, because if i try and talk to them it is a lot of effort for them to bend down and it lowers their energy. Its kind of a pain in the ass when you see everybody grinding and kissing on the dancefloor, as often happens - and does happen to me with the right girls - I can get quite a few kiss closes, but it can be inconsistent - two or three one night and then none the next two nights etc...so how can I tap in to that sexually energy more effectively - from a sitting position?

The third thing, which I think is the result of number one and two combined really, is when i get a number, they often flake if i try and introduce a kind of dating element to the day 2 - like that wasn't what they gave their number out for. So what seems like a really good night out with ten new numbers means that maybe one or two actually want to try out the date thing.

Other stuff which is so important like body language, i try and adapt it as best I can by sitting straight and such, but it's a bit hollow.

Any advice you could give me would be much appreciated, guys. This is the only part of my life where i feel my disability is kind of holding me back...I just want a fair crack of the whip if you know what i mean! Sadly, being a student, I can't afford products or bootcamps, which I am sure are worth it, but i would rather be a well fed loner than a sexy anorexic!

All the Best