| What's up guys, so I'm 22 years old, and very frustrated with my sex life, which has become pretty much nonexistant.
When I was younger, I'm talking high school and junior high school, I had some really good success with girls naturally. Girls just came to me, I didn't have to try or do anything but live my life, and girls just liked me for some reason and they did the work of coming to me and letting me know. It was great, I lived my life, for whatever reason girls liked me, and I took it for granted.
Than I reached my later years of high school and than college, and my success came to a screeching halt. Girls just stopped entering my life. Up until now, I've had a mentality of, be patient, and eventually girls will come back into your life. However the weeks went by, weeks turned into months, months into years, and its now been over 6 years since I've been with a girl where we weren't both drunk lol.
I honestly didn't realize how bad it had gotten until I actually sat down and thought about exactly how long its been, and when I realized its been 6 years, it was a huge rude awakening.
My patience is up. I can't wait any longer. I'm 22 years old now, if I'm lucky enough to live into my 70's, a third of my life has come and gone, and my sex life has been abysmal.
I've assessed my situation the best that I can and I've pretty much come up with a theory as to why I haven't had success. Now I'm no Brad Pitt, but I'm not the ugliest guy in the world, I have friends and a life, I was a college athlete, I'm smart, I have absolutely no problem talking to strangers, and I've been told that I'm funny. Girls I know are constantly asking me if why they never see me with a girl, and they than ask me if I'm gay because they can't figure out why else I never have a girl. So all and all it appears that this shouldn't be as difficult as its been.
So I've tried to analyze this and see where my problem lies and I've come up with one theory, and it comes down to lack of opportunity, and lack of creating opportunity. As I said before, when I was younger, I had some luck with girls that I didn't have to try for, and as nice as this was, I believe it hurt me.
You see back then what worked for me was just ignoring girls, I just ignored them completely. I didn't talk to them unless they talked to me, I just hung out with my friends and let girls come to me. What allowed this to happen was that I was in school where you were with the same class everyday for atleast 6 hours and had a bunch of girls in my class obviously, and in addition I had a part-time job at McDonalds and worked with a lot of girls there. So I didn't have to go out of my way to meet girls, they were there.
Now though, I'm in college, I go to class and than come home. Its become a habit of not talking to people unless I have to or they talk to me, because that's what used to work. So when I go to class, I don't talk to people unless they talk to me and because of this I don't meet people, or more specifically girls, in school. Than I work part-time, but its in a construction type job where I work with all guys. So pretty much, I don't meet girls. It's just that simple.
So solution, MEET MORE GIRLS! That's probably what's going to be the main thing I have to work on I think, simply learning how to meet woman that I don't know. This shouldn't be too hard, like I kind of mentioned before, though I tend to not talk to strangers, its not due to a fear or anything like that, in fact, one of my strongest skills as a person is public speaking. In addition to this, I live in New York City! There are girls literally everywhere, so its really just a matter of getting the ball rolling I think.
Feel free to chime in on the situation, I'd like to hear what you guys, the masters, think.
I hope to learn what I need to here and by reading every book on the art of pickup I can get my hands on so that I can start getting girls again.
BTW, my name's TK, and hopefully you'll be hearing a lot more from me in the future.
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