| From here on out I'm gonna play the game differently. This whole time, ever since I've started, I've been afraid of the applications of the game. Not afraid of positive results, but mainly afraid that it wouldn't work, and afraid of realizing that I can't change. But now I know I can.
Since I picked up Neil's The Game I have thought about pickup every single day. Every interaction I have, I think about how I can use pickup to turn things my way. I think about what to say when I see a girl. I think about how to approach a group of hot girls I pass. I think about negging and DHVs and all the openers I memorized.
But I just realized this today, after another failed day of no gaming and lack of self-satisfaction: I'm doing it wrong. This whole entire time of reading and understanding theory and concepts and memorizing openers and DHVs and all this, I have just been approaching it from the wrong angle.
You can read every single word ever written about pickup, and still be as good as the next AFC in line. You could understand every single concept, it could be memorized in your head word for word, and still you wouldn't have noticeably improved. You may ace a written pickup test, but if you had no in-field experience, you would not have gotten laid once.
My point is, you have to get out there and TRY some of this stuff. TRY IT. I know, it sounds fucking scary as shit. Try it? You mean... actually use the stuff? It is actually easier said than done. But once you get out there, you can't have hesitation. If you see a group of girls that you want to approach, just walk up and open the set without thinking twice. Once your there, your stuck, and you HAVE to say something. When I say you, I mean me. Or I.
I have had days where I do this, and I don't think twice. I don't think about anything other than the moment and what I want from it. What I need, and how I want this moment to work for ME. This semiconscious social plane I throw myself into is the key to social success for me. I walk around and talk to everyone, even strangers. I throw an opinion opener out there, the group laughs, I've successfully opened. I introduce myself to a cute stranger, she giggles and introduces herself. I walk up to an HB9 and tell her that I like her purple bag, and that purple is my secret favorite color. She smiles and tells me her name. I'm on a roll, and why? How?
It's because I did it. I chose to do what I wanted and get what I needed, and seize the moment for what it was worth. The days that I go home unsatisfied and kicking myself are the days that I let the moments fly by, and I sit there cause I'm too anxious and nervous to catch a wave. You will never Hang 10 if you refuse to stand up on your surfboard. The first few times you're gonna crash and fall, but climb back on and stand up, because when you catch a wave it feels incredible.
From now on, I'm going to do something about this. If I see a girl I'm interested in, I'm gonna do something about it. No more of this 'out of my league' or 'what if...' bullshit, I'm gonna do it.
It's my new philosophy.
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