I want to learn about the main theories on how to get, develop and succed at dates.

I think that thats the next level for me now. I'm not very good at it..

I could just ask "What to do" in the particular situation, but I wont, because:

a) I hate when someone does that

b) This way everyone would learn

and c) I want to figure out what to do on my own, i just need some pointers.

So if anyone has that covered, please share your views on the subject

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"[Cool is] a heavily manipulative corporate ethos. ”
Kalle Lasn

"Motherfuckers best belive in....That you are fucking with the best" - 3oh!3

Teasing is a battle plan for what Shakespeare called “the merry war.”

a date is an interview with an adventure.
a time of bonding and ISOLATION.
solo dates means more attraction moves than group dates, hangouts, and phone/text.
here you can look into their eyes and talk about how deeper things.
if youre going for f-close, this is about trust and seduction and fun.
if its someone you actually like and want a relationship, its about expressing your feelings but also to have fun in a non afc way - omg i love you! <- no no.

open youre mind. dont think about what she is thinking.
follow youre own mind and body.

you are hungry
"hey, you hungry? im hungry. lets go eat!
ever eaten at _____?? its so good.
but you dont deserve it yet so ill take you somewhere else"

her:
"what??? ah come on! ): "

you:
"hehe kidding, lets go!"

or if she is prudish on this date.
you: "you hungry yet? i am ! lets go eat."
her: "no not really..."
you: "all right, im a fast eater, so ill leave you here in this dark alley way, be back in 30!"
her: "no noo! ill come haha"

key:
dont get upset for small stuff.
have fun. joke. laugh. smile.
dont get serious at wrong times.
ask questions, listen, tell stories, get to know one another.

I wouldn't say I have it "covered" but there are some general ideas I find helpful.

1. Make it something where there's other interesting, fun stuff going on. Like bowling, pool, or bouncing locations between coffee, shopping, eating, etc.

2. Try and get into situations where kino is an option and is natural. This is why a classic dinner date is so lame. You're just talking, there's nothing else going on, and you're sat across from each other with not much chance to kino escalate (unless u wanna play footsie under the table...) Make sure to sexually escalate asap. She's agreed to see you again so there's obviously attraction, go in assuming that she wants to sleep with you and be very confident in your escalation.

3. A good way to be generating attraction and keep the interaction casual is to say "my friends and I are going to this place / bar / club, etc. you should come it'll be fun." Even get her to invite her friends. That way you have supplied girls for your male friends in your group, it gives you social proof going into the venue, and, most importantly, you are presenting yourself to her as a sociable guy who has cool friends, and is preselected (hopefully there are women in your group). You can then break off from the main group and comfort build from there.

4. The point of most of this is to make the date different and interesting, and to not get her into her "boring date" pattern. Thus try to avoid sitting for extended periods of time asking interview questions, e.g. "what do you do / where are you from" etc.

5. Have your logistics planned out, have fun ideas to go do, and generally lead the whole interaction from the time you meet her until she leaves your house the day after

6. This is why it's a good idea to plan your day 2 so that the last location you bounce to is relatively close to your house (or at least a subway or bus stop that'll take you to your house). That way you can say "hey lemme play you that amazing album I was telling you about" or lend her that DVD, or whatever it may be. Be talking the whole time and make the trip quick, so that she has no time to really think and have to decide about whether she really wants to go to your place or not.