So I met this girl at the casino she's a dealer there and I managed to number close her. I used a lot of C+F and a lot of kino. Now the casino advises its employees not to interact with the regulars outwith the casino and she told me "I don't usually do this" when she gave me her number but she did anyway and we talked for about 15 more mins.

After a while we're talking about hooking up next week to go out and she says "I sorta have a boyfriend this sorta on/off thing and I'm not a dick but we can hang out" Now I think if she wasn't interested she would have mentioned the boyfriend earlier to try stop me pursuing her any further. Also if she wasn't interested she wouldn't have given me her number either.

I text her later on that night and she text back. Just wondering should I approach this girl completely ignoring the fact that she mentioned this "boyfriend" situation? What do I make of her mentioning this?

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Girls aren't all pinheads... like us, they have routines and game too. If she gave you her number, she is, like you acknowledged..very interested. She may have dropped the boyfriend line to test your response, to see if it shakes you or makes you uncomfortable. Women obviously want a man with unshakable confidence who is cunning enough to be able to break through a line like that. On the other hand, she may infact have a boyfriend, in which case she is bored by him and finds you exciting. I would be persistent with this one, arrange for a casual meet in a public setting where you can convey your worth to her more. Build her trust. If she is comfortable with you, use the typical, "have you seen any good movies lately?because I haven't, and I would really like for that to change." Throw a sneaky smile or laugh on there. Say you would like company. There are other ways to go about this too. I have a feeling you don't need to be too technical about this though, she seems up for seeing you again, use your window of opportuniy!

Blow by that sh*t.

It's usually a pre-excuse that she knows she can use if she decides later she doesn't like you. If she really does have a BF, it sounds like she couldn't possibly be that devoted to him considering she gave you her #.

Never bring it up in conversation with her either. If she brings it up as some kind of LMR, say you have a GF.. you heard me right!.. It'll work because she doesn't feel so bad cheating if you are cheating also.

Good luck bro

Have you field tested this as an LMR strategy? Because it sounds terrible to me. You want to frame sex as not a big deal, casual, you're not into any kind of serious relationship, and that since she's a fun, outgoing girl who doesn't care about the "rules" of "society" (hopefully all part of your qualification and framing before) she'll want to do it too, and have no regrets.

If you say you have a gf too, suddenly she's not only feeling bad about cheating on her bf, but now she's possibly causing you to mess up your relationship with your gf. Now you've just given her a double serving of guilt and flipped it from you being in control, leading the interaction, and being the one who's responsible, to make her feel like SHE's responsible and making a REALLY BIG DECISION. Game over in my opinion.

In answer to the original post, mentioning the bf like this is just a simple shit test. She gave you her number so it obviously somewhat interested. Don't ever bring it up, get the day 2, build attraction, escalate, and if she mentions him again just change the subject and keep moving forward.

Stuff concerning BFs

http://www.bristollair.com/outer-game/t ... oyers.html

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