Getting many IOIs, but failing to display my own interest



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PostPosted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 3:49 am 
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The title basically sums up what my problem is. Im a pretty quiet guy. Infact I want to be exactly the opposite. Well anyways a few different girls in the past 2 weeks or so have been giving me some IOI's. Basically im afraid to act on them.

These IOI's, or so I tinik t

multiple times of eye contact
they initiate the conversations
and..
this one girl in my school almost gets in my face with her hand waving saying "Oh hey (name)!! hey!.....She giving me all these other IOI's.

Its like damn these 2-3 girls I feel like I could make a move and get somewhere but I feel like they think I have no interest in them. Just because I'm a very quiet guy. I want to show them interest but I don't know...how..


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PostPosted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 8:37 am 
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One thing that i do in my routines at A3 to qualify the girl is to "adopt her as my little sister"
so i say: "you're cool, I'm adopting you as my little sister; we can climb trees a drink cordial together"
This is good for two reasons. It conveys your interest and allows an element of role playing(role playing allows a girl to easily emotionally connect to a situation) in your gaming.

You should also be qualifying her, ask questions like what makes you special that I should be talking to you? What makes you unique?
hope that helps


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PostPosted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 5:52 pm 
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Two kinds of qualification.

The first is to get her to qualify herself to you by asking screening questions like "I only really like hanging out with people who are open minded and adventurous - what adventurous things have you done recently?" This helps build attraction by framing the interaction in terms of you seeing whether or not she is worthy of your high standards.

Secondly is to qualify her by figuring out her attributes that she values and wants to be valued for. For example, most hot girls know they're hot, and so saying "you're hot" to them is a bad way to qualify because it's a surface attribute that they don't put that much stock in. However, if you have been talking and you find out she is a musician, painter or writer, then you can say "you know most people you meet are so dull with their accounting or managing jobs or whatever, that's why I love being around creative people who are so much more interesting and fun. I can see you are a really creative person, and that's probably why I feel happy and comfortable around you."

Then you've just qualified her about something she actually cares about, has worked hard on and wants to be valued for, and you've framed the interaction by saying that it's a comfortable one.

This is a key step in comfort, but remember to have a bunch of IOIs (mystery says 3) before you do this, because you want her to have actually done and said stuff to deserve you qualifying her, obviously!


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PostPosted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 6:03 pm 
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You could also be the hard to get... girls always want what they cant have... soon you will have them eating out of your hand...

if your a shy guy... talk and NEVER SHUT UP... youll break out of it in no time...

it doesnt take much ... i suggest reading Neil's Book Rules of the game... become that social butterfly...

LOVE TO TALK and throw interesting facts in...


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