| THE PAINTING THEORY ( JOHNNY B. )
Different guy, different game. Yes, this is true and i realize ( and you should too ) that there is no universal theory which would always get you laid due to the fact that we are all different. Everyone of us embraces our own values, characteristic traits and personality which are pretty much genetic and nurtured while growing up. But recently i have been concentrateing and studying my inner game and made up this new experimental theory which is partly based on one of the winggcats methods. I was reading one of his posts concerning ” frameing ”and it pretty much opened my eyes and made me re- valuate my game in a whole new perspective.
The ”new” perspective related to sargin/ gaming women ( reversed order to demonstrate what im after! ):
1) ATTRACTION
2) PRIZING ( Swinggcat )
3) STRONG FRAME
Let me explain this more to you:
Basically what this means, is that your target HB must be attracted to you (at least in some sort of level ) before she sleeps/ goes out with you. Right? "Attraction" basically means that she gets that warm, sexual, futuristic ( you and her together ) and interested feeling concerning you. So how can you build up this attraction? Most guys would say ( and pretty much do this at clubs etc. ) that "play all sorts of games and tell DHV stories so you would stand out from the ground. " The problem however is that its pretty hard to affect her emotions if you are not the grand prize in her books. Yes, these games can rise your value in her eyes but is it enough for her if YOU as a person doesent have any value ( your frame is weak= bad bodylanguage, acting like a Beta male, weak voice tonality, no emotional chracteristic reflections ). Can those routines and little mind tricks really save you? Think of it this way. Would you, as a girl sleep, with a guy who would have all those bad frame traits and still sleep with him even if he would show you some cool coin tricks? I doubt it. At least not in the long term.
So where does this lead to? It leads to " Prizing ". You have to be something that she wants no matter what. When so, you can run the game, not her. So how can you be that " grand prize"? The way i see it, is that you have to create a strong frame concerning you and your personality. A frame that has ” grand prize ” written all over it. An alpha male frame saying that im one with my inner me. In the end, she is sleeping with YOU and not with your tricks. Those PUA ”tricks” ( games, stories, NLP etc. ) can be a nice add to your game which can make your frame even more solid than it was when you opened her ( or she opened you ) but basically it all comes down to your frame when dealing with women ( opinion ). Think about it! When you enter the set and she doesent know you yet, whats the key factor that makes her decide whether she is going to talk to you more or not? Yes, its your opening line/ routine but most of all its the way how you represent/ delivert it! Its your bodylanguage, your voice tonality, your inner peace reflecting comfort, the deep eye contact between you two and your confidence. ITS MOSTLY YOU, NOT THE WORDS!So naturally when you have a solid frame build around you, everything else follows it. Not vice versa. If your routines and characteristic flaws rule you, there is a harder way to become a succesfull PUA because you are trying to mask behind all of that which in the end is irrelevant to the game. All those tricks should only be a nice add to your game, it shouldnt be ” absolute value ”.
Be your own master!
Explaining this more simple ( The real order, not reversed ):
You have a strong frame when you enter the set= she valuates your frame and gets interested which can be boosted even more with PUA ” tricks ”= she is attracted to you= She will sleep with you/ she wants to see you again
I hope you are still reading because now comes my ” Painting Theory ” :
”The Painting Theory”
So based on what i just wrote above, lets assume that you ( as a person ) are a painting in a gallery. You are made by some un known painter and you have very nice frames made around you which outlines/ defines your ” boundaries ”. You are a painting inside those ”frames”.
Now, this shop is been run by an old guy and one day this hot rich woman with not so much art knowledge enters the gallery. Because this woman enters the gallery, we can assume that she is interested to buy some paintings.
When she starts walking around the gallery, what would you say that are the key factors that wakes up her interest if she notices a painting that intrigues her? Yes, its the over all feeling/ vibe/ picture she gets from that preticular painting when she first sees it ( = your bodylanguage, voice tonality, confidence and your over all apha maleness when you enter the set- first impression ). Now when she has pointed out her interest to the painting ( girls interest toward you in the club after opening) due to these elements i mentoined, she starts to evaluate it. ( Same deal with the girls at the club, they start evaluateing you inside your frames by shit testing you or doing something irrational so they can see how you react to that ).
Now what are the factors that would make her by the painting? I would have to answer that its the massive attraction she gets from that painting inside those frames with all its details (= your personality, your over all essence.. the deepest core of you!). I bet that she aint buying this painting just because of its frames ( those pua tricks without bringing up YOU ) due to the fact that its not what she is interest at. She wants that impressive and genuine painting from the wall, not the frames that are ” extra ” around it.
Lets assume that she has now really attracted to this painting due to its influence/ impact on her. First it made a great imperssion and after she started to evaluate that painting more carefully, she notices that its something that she just has to have on her wall ( Prizing- you are the grand slam in their books due to your good framing ). But before she can take that painting to her house, she has to make the final decision whether the ” painting ” is worth her money ( same thing at the club. She has to make the decision based on your behaviour/ the picture she has gotten from you as a person whether you are worth investing time or better, when thinking that are you worth sleeping with ). While thinking this, she has to to think about the prospects related to your value which basically comes down to your impact on her via your frames and existence.
The lesson behind this:
Instead of focusing on what to say or when, concentrate on HOW you deliver it what ever it is. It all falls down like a deck of cards if you dont have any CREDIBILITY behind your game. If you dont have a believeble frame than your game is pretty much like shooting in the dark. So focus more on your essential frame than the canned/ impro lines.
Its not What you say, its how you say it!
[ Johnny B ]
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When you lose, don't lose the lesson. ~Author Unknown
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