| I hate to say this, but I believe this will be my last post on this site. I want to share with you my successes, my defeats, and most importantly, the things I've learned from Pick-Up.
I wandered in here, to a site like this (ending up here, obviously), wondering what it was that I was doing wrong. Why it seemed like everyone else had these really hot girlfriends and I was left with scraps. I studied, I went to a session, I applied what I learned.
What I learned to 'work' at getting women in my bed did not end up being what I needed to learn to find the woman for me. If you're into pick-up, as I first was, to meet slutty club whores who will only put out to the hottest, most eloquent and confident men, then read no further. Come back to this thread when you want to meet a decent woman.
If you want more than one woman in your life, I'll say this: You can have your cake and eat it too, by the way. You are just going to have to go through a TON of women to find the few that are cool with it and are attracted to you.
Yes, I said attracted to you. You. Not the bullshit persona you put on when you go to the club, I mean YOU.
I've spent the majority of my adult life trying to figure out how the jocks in highschool did it. How the dumbest assholes seemed to have women falling all over them and I was left with the shy ugly chicks with low self-esteem.
Highschool is the past. Women evolve. They learn. They develop a sense of self-worth and what they want in a man, and guess what? HS Jock isn't it anymore. They want confidence, humor, self-sustainability, and a good father figure for their children-to-be. (Club whores are excluded. See statement above if that's all you want.)
From PU, I learned cocky-funny. In the real world, you can be funny with an ever-so-slight bit of cocky and get away with it with a woman who has any respect for herself.
From PU, I learned MM, and Gunwitch. MM is good for bar sluts, and Gunwitch is good for yourself. GWM develops you as a human being. Really, when was the last time you read anywhere to go camping by yourself? I don't agree with 100% of what GWM teaches, but if you like these 'methods', and you want to find the 'right one', it's the best you're going to come across.
You need to accept the fact that not every woman is going to find you attractive. You can do everything 'by the book' and I would personally only guarantee that MAYBE 10-20% more women than would otherwise find you attractive, would. Even though you would sell your left nut for a woman, it doesn't mean that anything fruitful would come from a LTR with her. Yes, she may be hot, but if she doesn't like you for who you are (D&D or WoW fanatic, geek, nerd, shy guy, etc.) then either you need to change who you are at a CORE LEVEL or continue on until you find someone who is 100% okay with who you are as a person and doesn't feel the need to change who you are.
That said, you DO want a woman who has goals, ambitions, and may push you to find your limits and as a result, yourself.
Also, it's OKAY to be a little shy. A good example would be: "Hey, I saw you and wanted to say hi." Talk for a minute about anything - even the freaking weather. Then maybe continue to say, "I'm really not great meeting new people, but you seem pretty cool. Let's go out sometime." If you say this with the confidence that if they say "no", they will be the one missing out, you WILL find a nice chick. This fucking WORKS.
GWM, and Chief has reiterated in a training session, teaches you to be yourself - without restraint. That last part is the key. Be you. Be proud to be you. If you have a level 12 paladin, be fucking proud of that shit (I'm talking out of my ass here, but you get the point). I promise that 98% of women will not find D&D attractive, but the fact that you have something you're passionate about, is. (As long as that's not ALL you talk about.)
Be respectful. An arm around a woman's shoulder is ok. An arm around her waist says that you're staking your claim. Be careful. Make the first move physically, but let her escalate. If you put your arm around her shoulder, and she puts hers around your waste, it's okay for you to do the same. You SHOULD try to go one further, but be VERY keen as to whether your advance makes her comfortable or not.
Do not, under any circumstance, get more wasted than 'your girl'. (Meaning your prospect, girlfriend, or wife.) It's rude, and you will hear about it later and not in a good way.
Be honest. If you're traveling, and don't plan on sticking around, don't hide it. Women are up for ONS as much as men (they're just more discreet). Granted, I'm a strong believer that you get what you pay for (time, effort), so beware. Keep in mind that not every woman will be at all receptive to a ONS, and in fact, most will think poorly of you for suggesting it.
On the other hand, I've actually told a girl, "I really do like you, but you have to understand... I travel for work. I'm in a different city every week. I go out at night with the sole intention of having as much fun as I legally can. Everything else is a bonus to me. If you want to hang out tomorrow, that's great. I just wanted to be honest with you and upfront, so you didn't think I was trying to play you." It works. I've used it, and have gotten laid by it, but even more-so, I've met some cool ass chicks because of it, and if I'm ever back in their town, I have cool people I can hang with (pre-selection, for all your 'method' readers out there).
These are some of the most important things I've learned over the past few years of being a 'PUA'. To be honest though, I'm no more proud to say that than "I'm a one-track minded neanderthal who wants to split your legs open and poke you from the inside."
My tastes have evolved. I want more than what PU has taught me. I've learned, and I hope you can learn from the mistakes I've made.
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