| Hi guys. I'm new to the forums and I wanted to share my story (if it can even be called that- rather it's more like a situation). Im a junior in highschool and I'm having trouble creating relationships with guys and girls (friendships I mean for guys, and the same or romantic relationships with girls). I do not find myself enjoying highschool as much as I thought I would- stress from schoolwork along with maintaining a healthy social life. And I think a big part of my problem is I feel alone, and I'm constantly thinking about it and over-analyzing it. This seems weird to me because I am a fairly popular kid at my school. But although I do have a lot of friends and I think people geneally like me, I dont feel close to any of them. My friendships seem shallow and I have troule opening up to them and allowing myself to be more friendly. This has greaty affected my mental status and my ability to befriend girls and success with them as far as romantic or just physical relationships go. I use to be extremely confident with everyone. I didn't experience social anxiety and I wasn't afraid to have fun and not care what people thought. But I'm finding myself now experiencing anxiety in social situations sometimes and I dont feel comfortable "in my own skin." As far as girls go, I have always been pretty successful up until recently. At the risk of sounding cocky, I consider myself of way above average attractiveness. I think for this reason, I've never had to put that much work in to get with girls. But now that Im a junior in HS, and we are all maturing, Im finding its become very hard to get by just on looks. I think I have a good personality but as of later, its been non-existent. I use to think of myself as fun to hang out with, but now I consider myself boring and I frequently act awkward, and don't know what to say to girls and people in general (I also analyze eveything which is bad). I've become vey self-conscience and I frequently cannot open up to people and I don't act like myself (I act how I think people want me to). I know I just put a lot out there for you guys to read and I dont expect you guys to read it all or be able to help me with some of the stuff. But I am hoping I can at least recieve help when it comes to my game and inner-self (confidence, etc.). I want to love life and just have fun. I want to love to be around people and just have a good time with whoever I'm with (as I'm sure many of you do or at least did). Please help. Post links or advice on where to start or give me your opinions.
Yes, I have been searching the forums and reading the stickies. Only, I haven't yet come across someone with a situation similiar to mine.
Sorry for the long post. If you're willing to read it, please respond. If it's too long, please don't post it's too long. I know.
Thanks.
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