Ok, so recently I've noticed that I'm not able to create attraction as readily as I used to. I'm still great with approach, building comfort, etc, but since my circumstances changed, I've noticed less attraction being built.

Let me explain, In the summer of last year, I had to move halfway across the country to go to uni, so I had to leave my job, the girls I was already in relationships with and start afresh somewhere else.

What this forced me to realise is that I don't actually antually know how to create attraction, thus my question is:

What are the best ways that you have found to create attraction for day game and long-game situations?

Thanks.

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"I don't think I will ever love a woman the way I love myself."
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i ahve the same issue.... when i was 15 i was a love sick puppy, it was disgusting lol.... and she toyed with me, ... broke my heart ..really ... i was depressed for years later, well 2 actually......a nd i sitll ahvent been able to bound back.... before her i was able to what ever

There are a lot of theories and models about what "stage" attraction happens in and how many "steps" there are before you have it, but the way I see it is fairly straightforward.

To get attraction, you must have some rapport first. Once you have rapport, break it by negging, disagreeing, or something like that. When she starts trying to build up that rapport again, you've started building attraction. Basically her subconscious is thinking "why am I investing in this interaction? (i.e. by trying to regain rapport). Well, I would only do that if I were attracted to this guy, so therefore he must be attractive."

Once this happens, you can then get her to qualify. This builds attraction further by making you the prize she is trying to win. The stronger the qualification question (e.g. "are you adventurous?" vs. "name 3 things about yourself apart from beauty that make you special", the more she is willing to prove herself to you = the stronger the attraction.

Similarly with compliance. The further you push the kino, and the further you make demands on her (e.g. "do this, sit here, get me a drink") without her refusing, the more attraction you've proved must be there.

Finally, of course, getting any kind of IOI is proof you have attraction. The more you push qualification and compliance, the stronger the IOIs you should be getting, up until the doggy dinner bowl look, at which point...you know it's on!

yea but readin sometihng and understanding it is really different then doing it and knowing how to do it .... it comes naturally, but if u had before , lost it ... is it possible to get it back or are we condemed to a life or boredom?

ive nevr achieved the doggy dinner bowl glazey eyed "omg hes so sensitive" -look from... clearly im doing something wrong

if it's possible to lose, it's possible to re-find.

Interesting your point on creating hoops for them to jump through, I do that with everyone anyway. Maybe I just come off as a bossy kind of guy. lol.

Oh well, either way, you've given me a few ideas to try out. Thanks guys!

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"I don't think I will ever love a woman the way I love myself."
*snigger*

glad i could help , but i was actually asking the question for my benefit as well lol

SHH! They'll know you broke rule number 8.

lol. No worries man. One for all...

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RULE #8...WHATS RULE #8 ?...... !!

8. Don't hijack threads. seriously, read the rules man.

Anyway, anyone else got some feedback for the original question?

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true.... my bad