Well I'm going to college in Central Pa
I am 23.
I never really had any luck w/ girls in high school. I used to crush a lot and get nervous. so when i got to college i opened my mind w/ a different mindset. to get w/ as many girls as i could without settling down. I learned game after many failures and embarrassments. Only problem is, the only time i have any game is when i have a few drinks. I have been w/ over 35 women over this time period but i would say all except 2 i was drunk when i hooked up w/ them.
Trying to stay away from drinking now but would still like to meet girls. since i stopped going out and drinking I have had no luck. just read this book the game and thought it might help.
Just hoping to see what this was all about. or if there was any help at all i could get.
I like to go out and do activities anytime that i can outdoors.
I would like to talk to girls and one day get in a meaningful relationship because I have never had any. The girls I had got w/ only liked me when i was drunk because im very shy around a girl i think is beautiful when im sober. Any advice would help. Sorry for the long post.

Thanks

Hey Rufino,

Great post, I think a lot of guys can relate to your exact words and we can all learn from this scenario...

You mentioned drinking as a way to be bolder and more courageous, and, I wont dispute its ability to destroy inhibitions. But what Id suggest is to SUBSTITUTE something for the drinking. Look for something that gives you that same Boldness! I find that being social and confident, begets more confidence, so simply talk to EVERYONE! and feed off the validation...people like being compliment and chatted with, and they'll do the same back!

Also, do things that will get you in a positive mood! I run, drink coffee, and ACT cocky (within reason) to boost my mood before talking to HBs!

Finally, remember that an HB is an ugly woman in disguise, treat her that way and you wont trip up!

Best of luck!

Hey Chisum,

Thanks a lot for the advice, im definitely gonna give that a try!

Thanks!

No worries man! Good luck with it, and remember (at least I try to remind myself of this as much as possible) HAVE FUN, thats what we're in it for right? And the girls too of course...

Cool posts guys, I can definitely relate to your problem. I'm alright at chatting girls up when I'm drunk, but I have a really hard time creating conversations with good looking girls when I'm sober. I don't really know what to talk to them about or how to initiate a conversation, but I'm good once I'm in a conversation.

Do you guys have any suggestions?

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B.B.

Cool posts guys, I can definitely relate to your problem. I'm alright at chatting girls up when I'm drunk, but I have a really hard time creating conversations with good looking girls when I'm sober. I don't really know what to talk to them about or how to initiate a conversation, but I'm good once I'm in a conversation.

Do you guys have any suggestions?

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B.B.

Cool posts guys, I can definitely relate to your problem. I'm alright at chatting girls up when I'm drunk, but I have a really hard time creating conversations with good looking girls when I'm sober. I don't really know what to talk to them about or how to initiate a conversation, but I'm good once I'm in a conversation.

Do you guys have any suggestions?

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B.B.

Charmingish...

I'd offer the same advice in your scenario..Pardon the cheesy cliche but "put yourself in a good mental place" and you'll find the convo flows much nicer.

CONSTANTLY visualize yourself in control of the conversation and you can guide it toward your interests while leading her in...to do this think about the most dynamic and charismatic figures in your life. Most likely you could listen to them for hours, right? Notice that it isnt neccessarily their content, it is style, delivery, and inadvertent DHV....

I like some of the PUA conversation stuff, but I think its important that the best stuff is original, pick a topic you're interested in: (questions should begin with what/why as to avoid yes/no answers) and ask a controversial question...She'll answer and be pleased that you werre bold, unique, and different...

I can give you examples, but you're better off thinking up your own on the cuff! good luck!