I've been going out to clubs these last few weekends. I'm beginning to get more comfortable approaching/talking to chix. But I'm realizing that I'm always talking about some regular shit. I'm not teasing them like I should(eventhough I'm looking for things to joke about). I haven't been successful coming up with anything. So i'll just start asking those "about you" type questions which really lead no where. I'll see the same girl i was talking to touching another guy being all close and I know I must be doing something wrong. I'll use kino when I can, but on a conversational level I can't seem to avoid those damn general getting to know u type questions. I want to be able to tease/create some level of sexual tension (or at least some kino) in a short amount of time. What should I do? thx

Hello my fellow player friend,

This is how I would approach....

always kino and smile no matter what... do not touch somewhere very sensitive place.. keep the eye contact... while kino, touch her elbow or top hand and escalate from there. and make sure you keep kinoing and escalating...

questions, don't matter as long as you know how to escalate.

"you" questions are kinda wack... make her qualify herself to you, if she likes you and feel the attraction... she would ask about you.. not about herself...

what i do while asking questions...

for example,

I found out that some of the girls here are selfish...are you? or you don't seem like that or am i wrong? or am i right? or is it true???

shit like that... that way, she is qualifying her self and have to defend herself...

good luck bro

Hello my fellow player friend,

This is how I would approach....

always kino and smile no matter what... do not touch somewhere very sensitive place.. keep the eye contact... while kino, touch her elbow or top hand and escalate from there. and make sure you keep kinoing and escalating...

questions, don't matter as long as you know how to escalate.

"you" questions are kinda wack... make her qualify herself to you, if she likes you and feel the attraction... she would ask about you.. not about herself...

what i do while asking questions...

for example,

I found out that some of the girls here are selfish...are you? or you don't seem like that or am i wrong? or am i right? or is it true???

shit like that... that way, she is qualifying her self and have to defend herself...

good luck bro

nice. thx man. that makes a lot of sense. i guess what i need to start learning is how to escalate as well as learn how to make her quality herself to me rather than the other way around. what do u recommend for some basics on this (as far as reading/video material)?

Kino, Body language, tone of voice are your friends. It's not what you say and so on and yeah, the trick is to not say very much but to get her talking.

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Fed up with "getting to know you" questions? Then don't ask them!

People who are unsure ask questions. Alpha males make statements.

You could say "so...what do you do?"

OR you could STATE "You're a librarian. Definitely, or a nurse, or some other kinky shit like that. I can see it - with those glasses and the shoes. For sure."

Now you've got tons of open threads already. She's thinking "what about me makes him think I look like a librarian? Are librarians and nurses kinky? Why?" Suddenly she's qualifying herself within a minute and already asking you stuff back - about your statement, about why you think she looks like that, etc. All just by how you "ask" for the information.

Two further points. The best way to get rapport is to assume it. Once you've got some general details to work off, just talk to her like you'd talk to a friend. Obviously not the fart jokes and shit, but just general, "I saw that show X on TV with the guy, yeah it was so funny when...etc." You want to put her in the conversational mode that she has with friends, not the question-answer-question-answer conversational mode she has with strangers.

Finally, once you have even an ounce of rapport, like you've got her name, you know one fact about her, and got her laughing once, BREAK rapport. You can neg, or disagree with her, anything. Not something too strong or you'll lose all the rapport, just enough to make her start trying to build it back up again. That's an IOI, you've got her emotionally invested in the interaction, and then you've started attraction!

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