Hey,
So I'm 22, slept with 6 girls, had long term, short term and one night stands. I've just started at university and I'm trying to pick up girls in loud night clubs. I'm used to bars and one on one conversation and I'm relatively good at picking up in these situations. However I'm struggling in the clubs and sometimes finding that girls who are 7's are blowing me off(or trying hard to get, sometimes they don't even respond and my friends seem to believe that they seem outright antisocial), which is crazy considering I've dated 7's to 9's maybe a 10 and all have had great personalities. I've tried different approaches from fast paced dancing to straight up 'hey, having a good night' bullshit.

I've begun to also notice that most the girls like to have some social connection, like through a brothers friend or friend of a friend or something. (like they don't want to think that I'm some randomer).
I'd be really interested in your thoughts on this matter. I'm not giving up on this one, I'm always trying to improve my game but this is becoming a tough nut to crack and putting myself outside of my comfort zone may well be interesting but the lack of success is kinda draining.
My thoughts so far are maybe I should be more assertive and starting dancing up close with the girls straight away(I'm not amazing on the dance floor but above avg.)
Or maybe I should work out a way of getting them on their own, as my game is way more effective one on one.
Thanks for your time and any comments and suggestions would be much appreciated xxx

I'm the same age, and even more noob than you, but i find that loud clubs are just annoying, as you can't hear shit. I went out this weekend and chatted to some girls when lining up for a loud club however, and in a club which had a section that wasn't so loud. That went quite well - the girls lining up were underage, so i suggested that I put my arm around one of them to make them as I could get in (they got rejected though ha!), and I got some other girl's numbers, although I fucked it all up cos I stayed too long.

I wouldn't worry about being a 'stranger' - I find that if you take a casual approach that chicks will respond well. Perhaps it's quite a lot to do with body language as well - like instead of confronting them straight on, do it from the side as if you're about to go somewhere, or as if you're not all that interested anyway.

later on in the night there's usually heaps of girls walking around outside the clubs as well, and I find it's easy enough to start chatting to them (e.g. we saw a girl walking around by herself, and said 'I hope you're not walking alone' ... and a conversation was started)

I too would like some more seasoned advice on the entire situation. I suspect that it's better to go to clubs that aren't so loud, or that have quiet areas that you can bring girls into, so that you can talk.

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Life's a game, let' play...

I know. In the clubss, you cant hear S***! It's so annoying.

What i do is just talk to her for about 2 mins brifely, Shout in her ear if need be, then take her by the hand and trust me, she'll follow.

Then, the rest is on your game!

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this couldnt be more true even if i had written this myself. I got back from a big lads weekend yesterday in Blackpool, the girls were amazing but i couldnt drive myself to chat to the girl in the club. Like you ive dated 8's and 9's (only a couple tho) so can deal with it, but when on a night out how is it possible to chat to a girl?

Do you find that if you start dancing with a girl they just think your weird? Plus if you try and make "the eye contact" you get the same response, how do you judge it? any tips on body language (i like the idea of approaching from the side)

i find night club game easy compared to day game and just chatting. Because of the loudness, its about ur body language and energy. Ive had more success ratio in nightclubs then day game. Let me tell you, the only reason girls go to night clubs is to be hit on by guys, and the only reason guys go is to hit on girls, so use that knowledge and go get some.