Hey guys,

I'm pretty new here but yesterday evening I somehow started a thing that worked so fucking great that i decided to post it here - tell me what you think about it.

I was talking to that one girl, for maybe 2 minutes when she said that she never threw up because of alcohol, a little later she admitted that she acutally meant she never threw up because of vodka and stuff like that, but she once did because of beer.
Me: Omg, I just started to trust you and stuff and now you lie to me?!?
She: I am sorry, when i said...
Me: interrupting her, i don't care what you excuse is, I was about to see you as a friend but now you are back down here (showing with my hands the distance)... you dropped that much (showing)...
She: blabla excuses
Me (not letting her talk again) come on you were so close to the friends zone ... seriously ...

After that I had her pretty much all evening trying to qualify herself - and after pretty much every action or thing she said i put her a little higher or farther away from the friends zone

What do you think about it? I am pretty sure I didn't explain it perfectly but with a little thought I am confident you will still get what I mean...

Good example of getting her to qualify man.
Its a bit of push pull - saying you started to trust her and then saying she's dropped.

kinda reminds me of swinggcat's tension loops! good stuff, man

thanx dude thats heaps good
im gonna try that one for sure!

Might want to not tease so so much but good job on the qaulifying man. Try this, next time you recreate that tension loop, comfort her atfer and then use the fact she is trying to qaulify herself as a trustworthy person;)

Use that attraction you know she has for you and dangle it right in front of her face and threaten to take it away.

Like:

"you do seem like a nice warm person I can trust. You know you remind me of a girl I dated, she was the sweetest girl I knew.... (pause and try to anchor). But then it turned out she lied to me and broke my heart. I hope you don't do the same sexy. You seem really likable and all and what if you were a liar?"

That will have her eating out of your hand;)

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This totally fucking wrong man!

Tell me what is the point of you having her qualify all nite long? What did you get out of it?

You got her to qualify! Great. You built attraction, now move on...by having her qualify the whole night you are inherently keeping youself stuck in the process and not moving on. She's attracted(thats why she's qualified), you could of sexually qualified her(if she answered that then she wants you), move on...

ha yeah Jewness you are right, but unfortunately I was also leading a pretty big group of people at that time, that didn't allow me to isolate her... And there were other interesting girls around, so I was more aiming at keeping her around to have fun and demonstrate value to the other girls around (yeah I will see them all again - they are in my indirect circle of friends)... So looking at a situation in which it wasn't possible to close in any way (ok #/email closes, but that's not the goal...) I don't think this is totally wrong...
Oh btw just txt her - it seems like got the best out of the situation

@KC you are right ... "I actually told her: god you remind me of my girlfriend I had while I was in america, she was so much fun to be with.../ unfortunately i got bored, because she didn't have the ability to enjoy a good conversation or just laying there and enjoying the silence and being together calmly... (little pause) OMG chill down you seem so hyper all the time..."

what do you guys think about that statement?

You almost got it down IC, just have to amplify that feeling and then flauntit in front of her. Try this little add on to what you said:

god you remind me of my girlfriend I had while I was in america, she was so much fun to be with... unfortunately i got bored, because she didn't have the ability to enjoy a good conversation or just laying there and enjoying the silence and being together calmly.

Scrap this: (little pause) OMG chill down you seem so hyper all the time

Add at the end:

(look deep into her eyes) What if you had a man that could give you everything you need physically, mentally, and emotionally.... (look away) and he decided he got bored and left you.

What you are doing by looking to her eyes whe you say something she like, and looking away when you are talking about loss is a mild form of anchoring.

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