Hi this is my first post...

So i met this girl at work about a month ago.( we both work at abercrombie). When we first met we hit it off pretty well, we had lots of things in common. It seemed like she was interested in me, so i decided to ask her if she wanted to hang out and she said " that be fun". So it was a saturday and about three hours before i was goin to pick her up, she told me that she had to study for her SAT test. (Now i know she wasn't studying, cause wat chick like that would be studying on a saturday night) since im still a beginner at this kind of stuff i told her that it was alright. I have never had a date cancelled on me like that before. So i decided to forget about her. Then i saw her a at work a week later and i decided to ignore her. After work she started texting me and ever since this we been talking. I think i was being to nice for her from the start. i started to kind of twist my personality into a badboy like personality lately. so maybe this is y shes been talking to me. It has been about two weeks since the date that never happened. I want to know if i should ask her out again?

I'm new at this stuff so if u guyz can help me out, i'd appreciate it.

maybe she did need to study? not everything is a flake or a shit test
when did this happen? cause the SAT were not too long ago
ask again if not u havnt lost anything, cant hurt to ask again but one time only not third chances lol.

lol thx man, i'll ask her out again. I also have another question, she is also a HUGE party girl, or thats wat she tells me. I was wondering wat should i do wit her if all she wants to do is party every weekend. We go to different schools, I was thinking of bringing her to a party at my school, but i rather have a date with her where we can sit down and eat dinner or movies or sumthin..

Persistence is what gets things done. Don't hesitate. But if your not feeling it, then don't sweat it because there are many more girls out there. Honestly, keep the idea of abundance in mind and don't ever hesitate to hit on other girls and get more phone numbers.

Don't forget to make this girl qualify to you too. You have to lead the frame. Make sure to have her invest in you too (i.e. If she goes on break, "Hey, you should get me a drink!"). Give the poor girl something to work for.

Also, why not just be yourself? Maybe this girl wont like you, but then again, maybe this girl isn't really your type. Who knows, you might find yourself wanting to strangle her every time she says, "And its like..." or "Like, OMG!" Dear god, it only took me a few times dating uneducated blondes to realize that they are nice to look at, but hell to be around for extended periods of time when their jaws are flapping.

Trying to be someone that your not will create holes in your game, and you wont seem genuine. However, don't mistake this point with making yourself into a better man, because they are not the same. Sure there is some truth to, "fake it till you make it." But I'm talking about long lasting changes. Self improvement most definitely will make people want to be in your life. Its the laws of attraction at their finest. People are attracted to well rounded individuals that have good friends, are confident in themselves (body and mind), and know how to have fun!

On to the party thing. She may be a party girl, but she'd probably be down for getting to know you. This is actually important. You need to build report if you want to bring her to parties with you, instead of going to parties with her (big difference, one is a DHV and one is a potential DLV). Girls either need to feel comfortable enough to know that you'll protect them, that your not creepy, and that you wont rape them, or else they need to be with their friends. A great way to go about establishing this report is a coffee/dinner date. In public places that aren't your buddies house that she doesn't know.

Now this is unsolicited advice, but:
Try not to date girls you work with. Its okay, and you can get away with it. But just know this. When it goes bad, its really fuckin bad. I had to quit a job once because the girl I had broken up with was my manager and she went completely fucking psycho. Just keep an eye out for "shitting where you eat" so to speak.

Good luck bro!

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Thx man for the advice