ive been in the game for almost 4 years now and ive come a long way. i got into a relationship with my current ex because of pickup. however, we broke up a while ago and started seeing other people. ive had flings with other girls during this break and a short relationship with another girl that i ended because i just didnt feel the chemistry or any "feelings" for her.

i began trying to be friends with my ex over the past couple months just because we used to be best friends and still wanted each other in our lives. and over time i realized how i still care for her and i could feel that chemistry between us again.

weve been hanging out more often and the other night we went out together n she broke down n started crying telling me over and over how much she missed me and apologized for everything over n over. we made out (kinda bad i know i was slightly intoxicated) but we both felt that spark again

and since then shes been texting/calling/flirting w. me every day and weve been hanging out n shes been getting really close/touchy feely with me again.

but shes also said:
i dont want a bf at all right now.. and said its not becuz she wants to be able to hook up with other guys n be single.
and shed be cuddling with me n say "idk what to do with you" "what are we?" "i dont wanna ruin things between us"
and ive seen her tear up while laying next to me
when i left her last night she was hugging me n she was like "i dont want to kiss you 2nite" i said "who said i wanted to kiss you??" ha

im not sure how to interpret all of this exactly.. but i havent let it bug me. i just act confident and indifferent.

so im not even sure if i want a relationship with her again but my question is:
how are you supposed to go about gaming an ex?
like i know the jyst of how to game a brand new girl and im good at it.. but are there some Do's and Don'ts that are different with an ex?
am i already supposed to assume rapport and comfort?
were still extremely comfortable around each other
any steps im supposed to skip?

am i still supposed to dhv, and qualify her, false disqualify myself, negs etc etc to her??

any help would be appreciated.. ive never dealt with pick up on an ex b4.
thanks guys

Hey Rain,

I've read you post and first thing would be to clear up what you want with her.

In your case, I think I would go to confort/sexual tension stages right away. She's obviously into that so having a talk beforehand about what you want out of that relationship. Looks like she would be into friends with benifits status. But anyhow, communicate with her, this will avoid a lot of hurt in the future.

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hey man!

i think TheJ is right...first and foremost you need to figure out what you want from her and if its possible to do so without anyone getting hurt.

if you decide you want her back then you should already know how to charm her as you've done it once before....be yourself because thats obviously what she likes!

Regards

Lucky

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as of now i could see myself being in an exclusive relationship with her again.

i dont think either of us could handle friends with benefits. were not like that and i dont think we could be close if that were the case.

but i feel like now after a breakup i realized a lot that went wrong with us that couldve easily been avoided. i kinda let my guard down n probably became uninteresting. and we hung out too much. we were clingy.

now im trying to get back to that alpha frame and being confident, indifferent, and not needy at all.

i have been letting her contact me first 90% of the time. she has been asking me to hang out and go out to dinner and come over. so i rewarded her and invited her to a concert together this weekend. shes excited

ive began improving my life and taking up new goals. im on a new strict workout plan and i will be running track for the university. i got a good job, made a ton of new friends and im working hard to do well in classes. i think she noticed this.. a lot has changed since the last time we were together.

im just wondering if i should still false disqualify her n such.. n im trying to think of some good push/pull comments routines i can do to spike her emotions so she will not assume i want her back already. does this sound good?

any other advice?

You know your ex better than any other guy on the forums.

Whatever worked well for you before the breakup use, whatever did not work well don't use. If you false disqualified yourself, negged, etc. before and it brought positive results, use it. It looks like there's no major hurdle to overcome here(cheating, abuse, etc.) so there's not a major amount of patchup work.

You're on the right path with improving the relationship by improving yourself. If she's needy, let her know. Offer some activities she can do by herself. Then, be proud of her for doing that thing if she chooses to do it.

Good luck Rain!

Yh.. How do you get back with your ex exactly, especially if she's moved on?

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You don't. If you're ex is happy with a new guy, you just with her the best. If she's unhappy with another guy, I'd still wish her the best--after all, there's a reason she's your ex.

If the good outweighs the bad, the best way to get back with an ex is to be the same guy you were when you first started dating.