Hi Gents,

I will start with a little about myself...

This is the deal... Im quite confident and use my tools quite well. I reprisent an alpha male in quite a few ways phisically and mentally. I am an Ex british paratrooper and since leaving the army i have made a local name for myself at home as i compete in Mixed martial arts (Cage fighting as people think of it as), I also teach it. I work as a doorman so i am always seeing lots of hot, sexy girls.

Bit about my past...

My little boy was born in 2002, i got married when i was about 21 yrs old in 2003 and separated in 2006, got divorced in 2007... The reason got married is, when i was in the army and could have my family move with me as they would be a 4-5 hr drive away and would only see them weekends. So we got married as quick as possable and it all done in a flash. I will tell you now i would never have got married to her under any other circumstanses.

So we get divorced...

Long story short... Wife and best mate in the army did the dirty behind my back. Im well over it and get on with him again as he is still with her and looks after my son and ex really well.

So with all that out the way you have some kind of idea about me. I have been dating since 2007 and had a few gf's but have started hooking up and finding interest in girls around there early 20's but i have got to a sticking point where i need a DHV story about myself that makes the baggage of my devorce in 2007 and my 7 yr old son less of a scare off to younger females.

I am quite good at opening a set, general chit chat and fluff talk but my biggest problem is when conversation gets more personal and it feels like a part of my life i cant be dishonest about... Or shall i??

I have currently found myself interested in a uni student HB8.5 ( the uni that this girl goes to are full of stuck up posh pricks so its rare to get some interest from 1 of them as they tend to stick to other students). So wanna see what happens with this one and want to find a new way of dealing with this issue i have.

Anyway if you can make somthing from this position i am in i am all ears. Hope you can help.

Thanks for reading

Graplin x

What up man, I'm a E4 in the US Army. I'm not Airborne but I've always wanted to get those wings =]
I also never been married, but I believe I can help you out.

What you feel, she feels.

I believe that you, yourself, are a little self-conscious about the fact that you were married and had a kid.

First off, accept the past as the past and realized that you are living in the present moment (Read more Tolle). "You are not your jeans" as TD in Fight Club said, it also means you are not your former marriage or a father to a boy. You are more then that and when you internalize that, she will accept this.

I highly recommend you NOT to be dishonest about this. There is a thing called female fluidity. When a man knows his path (Intent), a women will hop along on the ride and conform to his reality (read David Deida). The girl will have to know who you truly are and she will conform to it. You do not conform to her.
If you try to change the story to "add DHVs" to it, you are conforming to her and being re-active to what she might think. That is not masculine.

-best luck,
SPC La

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Thanks for your advice mucker,

Its easier to see from the outside looking in. I will do as i normally do then. I sometimes just think when i say i was married with 1 boy i get a shocked look, i still get the girl usually but i feel this is an awkward part of a covo that needs work.