I met this really drunk HB9 last night who was in a mixed 5 set. I only got the chance to talk to her for about 5 minutes, but we really hit it off, and her group left but she wanted to keep talking to me.
Instead of getting her number, I actually gave her MY number.
I'm curious to see if she calls me (if she does, I know I'm in 100%).

It was almost certainly unwise not to get her number, but is it ever right to give her your number instead of taking hers??

this is the thing, you say "hey if i give you my number, can i get yours?, that way its fair?" you say that then its okay to exchange numbers thats a number close.

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Always take her number. Without her number you're left with the uncertainty of whether she'll contact you or not, wondering when it will happen and there's nothing you can do about it. Also, traditionally females are conditioned to leave it to the males to make the move and contact them, so the chances of her calling you are slim because she'll look over eager and/or needy. Aside from that, she was drunk, so she may not even remember getting your number, even if she remembers talking to you.
So, as a rule, always get her number. I always give them my number after getting theirs, that way they know it's me when I call them as a lot of girls don't answer calls from strange numbers (or at least, that's how things are here...)

the only time ive ever given my number is when i dont have my phone on me. in this case I will also get her full name and look her up on facebook later on if need be.

alternatively you can learn to remember numbers....i used to do this a few yrs back before i even came across pick up. i would ask for their number, they would ask me how on earth i was going to remember their number and that i was clearly not going to call them as i would forget it (this is great in itself as it keeps them in suspense).... i tell them i have this 'special skill', and that i will re-sight their number to them in the next hour to prove it to them. and i did...it gets a great reaction every time.

it really is a cool thing to be able to do and she will remember for you for that. it also keeps her in suspense wondering if youre going to remember her number through out the night while drinking etc. when you DO eventually call, its a pleasant surprise she welcomes it with open arms.

ye i never usually give my number out for this reason.
Personally i never even acctually ask for her number, I just give her the phone and they usually just put it in.

This removes the slightly awkward question when u go to a girl "errrm can I have your number please?"

There's always a chance she could say no, if you just give her the phone your not really asking her your just assuming she will give it to you which DHV's.

In almost 5 years of sarging, there's only been ONE scenario where i gave out MY number. It's one of the only scenarios i can think of where it'd be appropriate. Here's what happened:

I'm teaching a 1-on-1 and winging an obstacle for a student. I had just isolated my girl and made out with her so that my student has isolation time when a hot, HOT girl taps me on the shoulder and wants to talk. She's super down.

I'm obviously in a bit of a bind here. I can't really engage her without pissing off the other girl so I blow off the new girl. She taps me on the shoulder again and asks me some question. I decide to bring the obstacle into the conversation so she doesnt feel left out. New girl HITS ON ME IN FRONT OF THE OBSTACLE. Obstacle is getting (understandably) pissed. Fuck. I tell her to let me handle this.

I turn to the new girl and pull her aside. She leans in and tries to kiss me. I give her the cheek and tell her to chill out. I explain that I can't talk to her right now because I'm on a blind date and I need to be polite. I obviously can't take my phone out while obstacle girl is watching so i tell new girl to take her phone out (her back was to the obstacle girl) and punch in my number and to call me later. She does, and I go back to the obstacle and explain that the girl was just a random drunk girl.

10 minutes later, i get a text...

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There are situations where it's alright.
But it's not like a default situation, you just got to read the circumstances and see if it's right to give her your number or not. 99% of the time it's better to take her number though.
Two times I've given my number to a chick, 1. was when this girl kept looking at me on the beach, I smiled at her, she smiled back, I was going to go say hi but then for some random reason I had to leave the water because my friend nearly got in a fight so I had to go stop it, when I came back she wasn't there so I was like fuck it, before I left the beach I was looking around and I couldn't see her so I started walking away. Some random guy runs over to me and says hey I'm "(forgot her name's )" friend...she wants to know if she can have your number. So I wrote it down.

Another time I was hanging out with my friends at some restaurant and this waitress was working there, starting talking to her for a bit, I asked for her number but her manager walked in at that moment, and apparently he was a bossy fuck. So I told her I'd come back later. When I came back it was really crowded and she was at the counter serving customers and my friends were outside waiting, so I couldn't just wait for her, so I just wrote my name and number on a piece of paper, quickly gave it to her in between a customer and said "give me a call some time". I walked away and she was smiling, so I took that to mean good news for me!
EDIT: I wouldn't usually do this, but this girl was an HB9!!! (I mean a REAL HB9!), and I already had another girl I knew who was interested in me, so I didn't really care if the HB9 rang me back or not, but it was a bonus when she did lol, so I wasn't completing worrying whether she'd ring me back, I simply didn't give a shit.

In both cases the girls rang me.

But like I said, it doesn't always work. Just read the situation you are in and decide for yourself!

I had one situation a girl asked my number without giving hers. I gave a fake number.





JUSTICE!

ha ha, brilliant. times are changing!

I gave once and she called me. Nothing wrong with it because I had plenty of other girls that night, so I didnt lose anything.

I think you did fine. I actually like to give a girl my number, because if she calls you then you know it's on. If she doesn't call, then you probably didn't leave a big enough impression on her.

It can be fun to give out your number to several girls in a night without getting theirs, then having them remind you who they are when they call.

In an ideal world yes. Girls are shy, and even if you did leave an awesome impression they may still be too shy to call....meaning you lost out on something potentially good. Getting her number solves this.

I understand where you're coming from Vision. At the same time, it's just a girl and a phone number. There's plenty more out there. I think we sometimes hurt ourselves by worrying too much about it.

I can think back to several years ago when I would get hung up on a number...fret about calling, think about it, then when I finally called she didn't answer or when she did the conversation didn't go well.

I guess over time, I've realized that the less I worry about things like numbers, callbacks, flakes, etc. and just go for the close in-field, my success sky rocketed.

We're all different though. If one way worked for everyone then we'd all do it and wouldn't need these forums right? Much respect to all you guys.

Quick technical question...how do I turn the html feature on?

I appreciate it!

In 99% of circumstances, giving her the number is bad. Why? One VERY IMPORTANT REASON.

YOU ARE NOT LEADING

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I personaly always get her to put her number in my phone. I would just hand it to her and tell her to put her number in. This is obviously after running the whole "Look im realy sorry but i need to get back to my friends, i would love to carry on this conversation.(Produce Phone)" or "Its not every day that i connect with someone so well would be nice to talk again. How about you put your number in here(Produce Phone)"

One phenomenon i dont know if any of you guys have had is that a girl will then call her phone from yours immidately after she has put her number in. I take it this can be counted as an I.O.I?

Regards, Saint

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