Im going to a house party in two weeks time. One problem, I only know the guy whose party is it. There going to be loads of girls there, a) because he's good with girls and b) his sister is only a year younger so all her friends will be coming. Only this weeks Ive started talking to random people (basic things like have you got the time/cigerette - how do i get to x), and im yet to attempt a PU.

I plan to get there around 10pm (starts at 8pm) as quite a few people will be drunk then so socializing should be easier. Im going to find my mate and toast to him, and give everyone around us a shot of J.D. This should make people feel relatively comfortable with me and enable me to open a group. Ill ask basic questions like 'how do you know x', 'what do you do' etc etc. Next thing Id like to do is initiate a drinking game. Something loud, funny but not to hard, anyone got any suggestions? This will make me look like the alpha male, then Im going to start opening girls. Theres also going to be a dance floor, and even though Im not going to dance alone, i will ask a girl 'so how good a dancer are you' then 'lets see'.

I'd be happy with a n-close/k-close but im aiming for a f-close that night. What do you think of the plan?

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Some pretty good ideas there mate...

Remember wherever possible your entrance is key... People realy do make an impression within the first 10 seconds of meeting someone.

I'm not suggesting you need a WWF style entrance with lights and music but don't go in timid and make sure you vibe with the first people you see.... Move on asap just a simple "Hey guys how you all doing, you OK?... I'm (NAME) by the way it's good to meet you..."

When you get a "Oh my name is (NAME)" back

ive found this works...

"OK (NAME) awesome well there's a lot of people here i need to meet so we'll carry on this chat later OK?"



Hope this helps x

If theres a theme, own that theme, go as something big and badass! or helarious. either way.

I like your ideas, pretty much what I do. Perhaps try and get a pivot? grab a girl and say "shall we go and meet some people?"

I can't remember if you mentioned this but if you know the guy who's house it is be chummy with him. (friendly) Make sure people notice this.

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I'm Looking for people to help me get into the game, I'm extremely new to aproaching. The rest Im confident on, partys and gatherings etc. Oxford city, UK PM me.

Thanks guys really helpful advice there.

Im definately going to chat to people as I walk in, just a simple 'whats up guys/girls' will be enough to get a conversation going. I'll follow up with 'wheres the party boy then?',them '(ANSWER)', me 'thanks, I'll go say hello orite, see you later'. Easy.

I like the idea of a pivot aswell. I sort of know his sister so I'll ask her to introduce me to everyone, she's really friendly aswell. If shes not around, I'll open a set of girls and get them/some of them to do it.

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'You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your fucking khakis. You're the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world.'

dont plan anything out. the best nights out are the nights where you think everything is going to be lame...bateman.

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