Hey guys,

I met this girl who was on my campus visiting her friends for only a week. She is studying in another uni far away, but she is from the same place I am from (she will potentially go back there for the hols - as will I). We kissed in one of the nights and had a good time together. The last nite ended badly though, with one of my ex's jumping in and diffusing the situation.

I still really like this girl and still text her but I have a fear it is becoming oneitis, yet I want us to maintain the same level of attraction/comfort that we had on the night we were together, so that when we meet in the hols we can pick up where we left off. How should I do this?

Thanks!

Its hard.
As soon as u start investing too much emotions, u get needy of her, so try to not do it. Remember that ur with her because of u, not because of her.
Jst game her like anyone else, and like always DO NOT become outcome dependent. If it goes wrong, oh well who cares.

- Hitman

If you keep talking to her without actually seeing her then 1 of 2 things could happen. She could either become very comfortable with you and LJBF you, or she could find a deeper connection with you (which is unlikely as hell)

If I were you I'd leave it until the holidays, meet up then and then take it from there. Keeping attraction through IM and over the phone is hard enough and you'll end up investing more than you should. Also, attraction without escalation leads to her getting bored and moving on... So rather leave it and start over. You know you've already hooked her once, and she knows this too, so you'll immediately have at least a tiny spark from her when you do see her again.

It's not a 'have your pie and eat it too' situation bro.

In order to get her you have to risk losing her. As is with all girls.

Alright guys, cheers for your responses!

I think I'll stop texting/calling her now and just do it from time to time..maybe once every two or three weeks. Being in a distance is hard enough to maintain attraction :/