ok im in college and a lot of going out parallels with getting invited to parties.

does anyone, speakin from any experience, have any tips on how to meet people and create relationships with them that will get them inviting you to parties, since a lot of guys are the ones throwing parties i just wondered if anyone had any advice

thx

you're asking how to get invited to parties? didnt you say you've been going out to a lot of parties already?

haha i do, usually 3 nights of the week im party hoppin depending on school, although i never remember saying that

however, its the same people or i get girls to take me to some parties, i want to be the source of parties and i was just wondering if any1 had networking tips

so you want to HOST the party?
that's what you're saying when you say "i want to be the source of parties"

but when you say "have any tips on how to meet people and create relationships with them that will get them inviting you to parties" you're saying you wanan know how to get invited to a party not host one

confusing...

not confusing at all, being the source of parties is not necessarily hosting them, its having places to take girls all the time thats what i mean/ having places to meet more girls

i hate hostin partys waste of money

I can help you there. I'm known in my social circle to always knowing where parties are.

The most important thing is to obviously have a large circle of friends. If it gets large enough, theyre really just acquaintances and not friends. For the sake of party invites, it doesn't matter too much. The consistency of your social circle is the most important. What will give you an advantage is to have friends from completely different social circles. In other words, don't hang around all the lacrosse players all the time or only girls from one sorority. Make a point in knowing a HUGE variety of people, of all ages, majors, and backgrounds.

I don't try to force being friends with a variety of people, I just find that cool people can be anywhere.

To do first is when you do know of parties is text/call other people and tell them to come. This is important to do even if you only know of one party. Then all of these people will be thankful and remember you did that. They are more likely to let you know where they are going without you having to ask. Even if you know they wont come, tell them about the party and you will be more likely to be remembered as the freindly kid who knows where parties are

Next, when at parties where you dont know the host, meet them! If its a good party, it usually means there will be more to come at that place. Network with people who throw parties and while talking normally w them slip in something like "yeah you guys should let me know next time you throw down, this party's pretty kick-ass". Usually I follow that with mentioning a good party coming up so they dont think im just trying to get invites, I have fun stuff to do on my own.


I'll leave it there for now.

add-on: on thurs/fri/sat if you're having a convo w/ someone you can throw in the line "what are you up to tonight?". as long as you mention something you might be doing you wont look needy. they will tell you what they're doing and most of the time will invite you to come if 1. its not exclusive and 2.they want you to come haha.

If they dont know what theyre doing, say youre not sure what youre doing and make an agreement to let each other know if you hear of a decent party.

Ill admit it, as a freshman i lied and would say "oh my friend is having something at his/her place but idk how big its gonna be" when i had no idea what i was doing that night. You might not want to lie but I think showing social value is important in these situations