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PostPosted: Tue Oct 27, 2009 11:36 pm 
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Alright well i need more help than that and if somebody helps me with the problems that i am currently facing with myself i will honestly be totally grateful. Well anyways i need help on how to stop carring about what people think of me. Like today i hung out with these two girls that i recently met and all i could think of was "I hope they dont think im weird" its so frustrating because i feel like I cant be ME because I worry about what other people think of me.

Another problem that I have is that I want to be more energetic sometimes I cant think of what to say and its almost like I feel my throat being closed or something. I hate having moments of silence how can i be more extroverted and more talkitive? I just start having memories of times where girls would tell me that I was shy and I think " I hope they dont think im quite and or shy" I seriously hate this I see guys that make girls have so much fun and make them laugh alot, where me i make them laugh too but i have moments of silence. and also when i talk i sometimes have trouble with what i say because i worry if what i say will embarrase me or make me look weird or bad

Also i need help on being more assertive and feeling more confortable around people ( Im very social but I worry alot ) And like those girls i was hanging out with today I felt as if they were sometimes making fun of me or I felt like they were belittling me or something I just need help on how to let go of my insecurities and stop worrying please help. What do i have to do?


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PostPosted: Wed Oct 28, 2009 2:15 am 
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I hate to sound repetetive but NLP can help you bro.
Log in to Amazon.com and pick up your copy of Steve Andreas - NLP the new technology of achievement

Read that book, do all the exercises and you will learn how to control your mood, confidence and more.

If you really want to see change then NLP is what you need!

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PostPosted: Wed Oct 28, 2009 10:11 am 
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you are worrying because you are focusing on the wrong things.

eg. in a group interaction you are focusing on what other people are thinking about you instead of being genuinely interested in other people. if you are genuinely interested and focused soley on the other person, its impossible for you to worry about what theyre think of you as your mind is focusing outwardly on them, not yourself. the very fact that you are not worrying about what they think of you will automatically cause you to convey confidence, dominance, your natural self, you will come across as the real you, which everybody loves.

read vin dicarlo's 'the attraction code'. i believe it will rock your world.


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PostPosted: Wed Oct 28, 2009 11:37 am 
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you are worrying because you are focusing on the wrong things.

eg. in a group interaction you are focusing on what other people are thinking about you instead of being genuinely interested in other people. if you are genuinely interested and focused soley on the other person, its impossible for you to worry about what theyre think of you as your mind is focusing outwardly on them, not yourself.
+1

That was pretty much what I was going to say, but let me add that you need to allow your brain to develop a new habit to replace a bad one.

Focus on being curious about other people whenever you have the opportunity to do so. At first, this may be a difficult conscious effort. However, over time, it will become an automatic response.

Do this and a lot of sticking points will self-correct. For example, if you've ever had the problem of running out of things to say, that will go away if you are actually engaged in the interaction in a curious manner.

Once you've got that under your belt, you can focus on developing your seduction skills because you will already have all the tools you need to handle social dynamics. You can approach the seduction aspect in the same manner as mentioned above by focusing on how sexy the women you're interacting with are, and how much you want to ravage them (see sexual state in GWM).

All this pickup stuff is essentially founded in developing certain habits for your brain like this.


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PostPosted: Wed Oct 28, 2009 3:16 pm 
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RSD blueprint. Look it up.


It explains much of the things you are experiencing.

It surely was an eye opener to me.


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