Okay, so I met this girl a long time ago and last year I broke out of the friend circle with her. Now, I initially met her online but I saw her at a club, and we talked a whole lot, for many years to come. We talked so much that she ended up placing me in the dreaded friend circle. We stopped talking for a year after that mostly because I had school coming up and I hate rejection. Who doesn't? Anyways, here's what I did. I ended up talking to her again after about a year. I asked her to come hang out. The kicker is that I asked her to come hang out at a restaurant. She came. Now, in her mind she kept thinking it was a friendly get-together. I did not kiss-close or anything, and the night ended. We hugged, said goodbye, and both went home. Later on, I caught her on MSN and we started chatting. I told her I had a great time, and that we should go out for another date sometime. Keyword: DATE. That's right. I gave her a great time complete with wonderful conversation and amazing company, and at the end of it I made it clear that it was actually my attempt at pursuing her, by calling it a date. Let's not get too technical, but the idea is if you can get the girl to come hang out at a restaurant, one-on-one and show her a good time, you can tell her it was a date afterwards and see how she reacts. She was very hesitant at first since she was coming off a relationship. I recall telling her I would not want to talk to her if she didn't want a second date since I genuinely had a good time with her company. Eventually she told me something like, "Well you know what, I just talked to my girlfriend and she told me that I need to get back into dating and BLAH BLAH BLAH...etc." So we dated a few more times. In the end it didn't work out. She went on vacation for two weeks, completely ignoring me and in a trance with her vacation lifestyle. I suffered from one-itus for a long, long time and it made me feel stupid. Nowadays I'm more passive to these things. Sometimes I feel like I'm cursed because I always fuck things up near the beginning parts of the whole dating thing. I kind of wish I had an abundance of females I was seeing at the same time. By the way, this was all before I learned about PUAs and all that jazz...well, just my two cents, maybe it can work out for you too. No hurt in trying.