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PostPosted: Sun Oct 25, 2009 9:58 am 
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So I met this girl a few days ago, she lives in the same building as me. She invited me for a drink with a friend of hers when we first met so I took this as a good sign, I had been playing it cool but also showing my interest. We met up one night after going out seperately with our friends (we were going to meet up but her friends delayed it), and when we got back to our building I walked her to her door and tried to kiss her. We were both a bit drunk so I figured it wouldn't go too badly if I tried, but yep, it did. She turned me down and now I feel like an idiot.

Should I just accept that I've blown it now and move on since it will be kind of awkward, or should I just pretend it didn't happen?

Any advice on this situation?


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Lets TALK tuff love.

WHY THE FUCK DO YOU LIKE HER? Because she has a vagina?

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Depends what she said after the kiss. If she said 'Lets just be Friends' then yes, move on, something didnt go quite right in your game. Never mind! Plenty of hotter chicks out there! (There always will be until you blow it with Cheryl Cole LOL)

If she said 'Not right now' then she is telling you its too early. Its always been a natural process of men making the move, and women doing the rejecting. Its always going to be like that.

But if she just wants to be friends, then walk. You will get into a nasty spiral of reading all her signals wrong. Let me know more about the situation and ill help more

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Depends what she said after the kiss. If she said 'Lets just be Friends' then yes, move on, something didnt go quite right in your game. Never mind! Plenty of hotter chicks out there! (There always will be until you blow it with Cheryl Cole LOL)

If she said 'Not right now' then she is telling you its too early. Its always been a natural process of men making the move, and women doing the rejecting. Its always going to be like that.

But if she just wants to be friends, then walk. You will get into a nasty spiral of reading all her signals wrong. Let me know more about the situation and ill help more
She didn't really explain it either way, she just kind of said no in a soft voice, but not in the way that I really felt like I could change her mind at that point. Do you think I made the move too soon? It seemed like a good opportunity. Should I feel embarrassed about it? Has it made me look like a loser?


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Lets TALK tuff love.

WHY THE FUCK DO YOU LIKE HER? Because she has a vagina?
Hah, what? I like her because she's really hot AND has a vagina (plus she's pretty cool). I don't see a problem here..


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Lets TALK tuff love.

WHY THE FUCK DO YOU LIKE HER? Because she has a vagina?
Hah, what? I like her because she's really hot AND has a vagina (plus she's pretty cool). I don't see a problem here..
his point is leaving her behind purely because you're not on track to fuck her is rude. If all you want is her vagina, by all means, 'move on' but if you legitimately like her, keep her as a friend.

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Ah OK, I wasn't meaning to totally ignore her or anything, by move on I just meant moving on mentally from thinking about trying to pick her up and accepting that I blew it.

Should I try and contact her again soon or just let it be until we run into each other again. I do like her but I'm worried it would be awkward.

Also, should I apologise for trying to kiss her? How should I handle it?


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Wow. Dont apologise for trying to kiss her. Thats very weak.

I wouldnt give up just yet. Im not too sure whats best for your situation, but the game isnt over yet. Many guys miss big opportunities by pulling out too early.

Just go back in the cycle. Go back to attraction, build it, then create comfort. Review the situation then.

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Many guys miss big opportunities by pulling out too early.
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Cool, thanks for the advice, really appreciated.. So a failed effort hasn't made me look like a loser in her eyes?


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It shouldnt have. If you act embarassed about it, so will she. Dont mention it. Keep playing the game! Keep me updated on how it goes :) PM me

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So I met this girl a few days ago, she lives in the same building as me. She invited me for a drink with a friend of hers when we first met so I took this as a good sign, I had been playing it cool but also showing my interest. We met up one night after going out seperately with our friends (we were going to meet up but her friends delayed it), and when we got back to our building I walked her to her door and tried to kiss her. We were both a bit drunk so I figured it wouldn't go too badly if I tried, but yep, it did. She turned me down and now I feel like an idiot.

Should I just accept that I've blown it now and move on since it will be kind of awkward, or should I just pretend it didn't happen?

Any advice on this situation?
The key to a succesfull kissig is building kino step by step. If you " dive " for your kiss without even touching her it is natural that her safety mechanism reacts to that. You suddenly come up with too aggressive " move " she aint used to when spending time with you.
Kino builds up comfort and trust. Its always good to start with everyday kino like hand shakes, high fives and than just moving on to the more" visible " kino. So next time keep this in your mind before you try to kiss a girl for the first time. Let her get used to you touching her.

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Good advice. Thanks


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