Hey everyone,
I'm 19 years old and fed up with being the "nice guy". I was made fun of a lot by girls when I was younger, and I think a lot of my issues stem from those incidences. I've read "The Game" and "The Mystery Method" as well as watching both seasons of "The PUA". I am dedicating part of my life to getting over my fears with women, and the following story is the reason why...

I was introduced to a girl through a friend who thought we would hit it off, and to be honest, we did. She initiated most of the conversation, and when a woman does that, I tend to be quite comfortable. We started dating, but I was so afraid to mess up that I ended up moving too slow (I think). Anyway, I ended up getting a call after about a month, and she told me she had a fear of commitment and to not blame myself at all. Needless to say, I did blame myself and after reading the above books I realize that it definitely was my fault.

I love women, but now I must begin my journey towards being able to approach a woman I like and start a relationship without any fears.

Let the game begin...

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Now I can finally be myself 'cause I don't want to be myself.

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Back, starting over as of 2012.

Hey, you'ved proved that you can 'get the girl' even if it was sloppy. you must have done something right to get her in a relationship. well done.

But it seems now is a good time to start with this. Dont blame yourself for it though. The only time i beat myself up about women is when i dont take the opportunities. If you tried that you cant fault yourself.

The first thing you will need to practice is approaching. But dont fear this just give it some effort, and if you do get rejected shes not rejecting you, shes rejecting your approach. One rule that i learnt in business was, if your approach isnt working, change it... Keep going until it works for you!

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Great advice.

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I agree that I must have done something right, but thinking back, I have no idea what it could be. My biggest issue I guess isn't really the approach. I can walk up to people and say hi without too much anxiety. I just have no idea what to say next. The whole "DHV" stories is what gets me. I cannot keep a conversation with a stranger going very long...

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Now I can finally be myself 'cause I don't want to be myself.

I agree also! Decent post!

Thanks.

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Welcome!

Well then i suggest you try using more open questions that make them talk. I wouldnt call these routines because i make it up as i go along, but i usually think of a list of 'hot topics' that everyone could relate to and start a discussion. My list at the moment is:

- X Factor. The John and Edwards Twins. They are hated by the whole of the UK
- 50 First Dates. Watched it first time the other day, ask girls if they think they could date someone who has amnesia and have to make them fall in love with them every single day.
- Would they date Paris Hilton if they were a guy
- Would they date Lady Gaga if they were a guy! Personally I think shes butt ugly

And then any of my interests in life, i work backwards and try and make them talk about something that could relate to them. For instance, im a big Lil Wayne fan (dont ask why, i cant explain it!)

I ask them "how cool are concerts?! Ever been to one?" Whatever they saying, im genuinly interested because im going through a phase of loving concerts right now after seeing LW live. The conversation easily flows into what music you two like. If shes into hip-hop/american music what so ever she will know Lil Wayne. I then suggest we go listen to some and ill play her my favourite tracks in HMV. If she hasnt, then she so needs to hear some! lets go down HMV one day and jam to some tunes! Number Close.

Another one i do, is ask is she a sporty kind of woman. Whatever her answer is, i always say omg you will love skiing! Its such a good sport/lazy sport depending on their answer. 70% of the time they say "ive been!" Theres my invitation to make her visualise us on a skiing holiday together, racing down the slopes and eating massive chocolate filled dohnuts with vin chaud.

My point is, i make her talk about things that i enjoy listening about. Girls switch off when you:

- arent talking with enough enthusiasm
- arent talking loud enough
- are talking about something she cant relate too at all.
- do all the talking

Let them talk about themselves instead of having to listen to you talk! Its a win-win situation! You get to shut up and do nothing, whislt she rambles on. The more she talks, the more she becomes attracted to you! On top of that, she will label you as 'mysterious' because she knows little about you and wants to know more!

I've really enjoyed writing this! [/quote]

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