This is a bit of a similar post with my other post... But this one is alot more general.

What if... here's what happen:

-You befriend her. She responds "nicely".

-She doesn't give any IOIs (regardless of how much "friendship" you have built with her)...

-You get desperate, and just "share your true feelings" eventually regardless whether or not your social value gets rammed.

-You can't even get to the seduction phase and she says 'let's just be friends".

-What the fuck do you do then???



If that happens, do you think you've pretty much blown the entire thing and just look for the next one? Or is there a way to remedy it? If so, what do you think it is?

...Maybe "reset"?

But... you're not a stranger to her anymore. 90% of the tips you get seem to be about "meeting hot women whom you don't even know the first name of". Not "hot women who already thinks you're a fucking loser".

Thanks.

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move on. one of the basic things you got to realize is that she isn't special - there are thousands more like her that you can go game.

No. I'm inlove with her...

Now what the fuck do I do?

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There's only one way under high heaven to make anybody do anything... Yes, just one way. That is, by making the other person wanna do it!

Meet 10 other chicks.

No! I'm inlove with her! Now what the fuck do I do?

(If this doesn't stop, the font size of my posts would start getting bigger and bigger every time.)

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There's only one way under high heaven to make anybody do anything... Yes, just one way. That is, by making the other person wanna do it!

Basically what you did is you established rapport, and then she LJBF'd you because you neither broke the rapport (by negging) nor escalated kino (by touching). She stuck you in the asexual friend category.

First off, you clearly are getting one-itis. STOP IT. One-itis is childish and gay. Pining over this one girl is lame and unmanly. There are 3 BILLION women in the world - what the fuck makes her so goddam special? Nothing, that's what. Get over her.

Go sarge some other women. Not only to get over your one-itis, but for another reason too. If you actually want to game this girl, you're gonna have to show her a side of you she's never seen. Right now she's got you pegged as the nice guy she has no interest in fucking. She needs to see you in the company of other attractive women, at social events where people are talking to you and you are dominant, in control and magnetic. Then you can start to actually game her by breaking that rapport, having her build it up again, and thus get invested in you and start to feel that attraction. Without doing the above, you will not get her.

As a final point don't CONFESS YOUR GAY FEELINGS to some girl you think you love or some shit. It might work in the movies, but it doesn't work in real life. Generate that attraction through rapport breaks and kino, and then isolate, kiss, seduce and f-close. THEN once you're actually seeing a girl, you can begin to open up and say how much she means to you, because that's real emotion.

man thats happened to me before...twice actually! i know it does suck and i know your in love with her but what these guys are sayin is so true...you definitely need to move on. cut as much contact with this girl as you can. in my experience...there's no way to remedy it. it sucks at the beginning but just try to distance yourself and concentrate on other stuff!

regards

lucky

Yea sounds like a case of the dreaded oneitus. I think this part of blondguy's post is spot on;
She has already put you in the "Friend Zone" but all is not lost. You need to raise your value as a sexual and romantic partner. Its basicaly a selection problem. She see's you as a shoulder to cry on, she cares about you but thats all you will ever be. Your in a box as such. The idea is to show her that you dont fit there, and thus she will have to re-evaluate you and as a result have to take you out the "Friend zone"

This is done, as Blondguy said, by being sociable with other women. You have to show you are pre-selected, and yet show her less interest romanticaly. You always want what you cant have FACT and if other women are injoying a side to you that she hasnt seen she will want in! Make her want you and you shall have her.

Regards, Saint

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i'm starting to like the advice you dish out.


To the OP: I've had "oneitis" for girls in the past as well. It never leaves until you start hitting on and messing around with other girls. That cures it pretty well. Just go sarge a ton of other girls, meet people, and find someone else to sleep with. you'll realize she wasn't all that special and forget about her.

Oh my God... I don't think this "oneitis" will end...

Either way, I love Blondguy's advice...

So, right now, I NEED to get her out of the rapport zone and have her evaluate me...

But, but...........

SHE'S GONNA GO TO A PARTY TOMORROW AND I'M NOT EVEN INVITED!!!!

WHAT THE FUCK....

I really have yet to get into her circle of friends. I'm like in a "different kind of circle" with her, and it's just me...

Guys, how do I improve my social life in general? How do I start? How do I get in her parties? There's this girl Christie, her best friend. I have her in my history class. IF I COULD JUST BEFRIEND HER AND HAVE HER GET ME INTO HER PARTIES WITH VICTORIA, THEN.... then I can work my game... But I don't even have any game!!!!

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man i think you've misunderstood what's been said!

this girl is obviously causing you some serious problems...do not spend all of your time trying to become friends with her friends! to improve your social life you just have to get out and meet people.

this is probably a total sin i'm admitting to here but when i was really nervous about opening i just sank a few pints of beer! go out and open loads of girls! this will improve you're confidence and you can take it from there. if you are still friends with this girl then she will notice a change in you after you've built up your confidence but you're definitely letting htis get to you to much! i can garauntee there are more important things in your life than this girl!

Regards

Lucky

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Dude, let go! Either take the advice or just keep trying all by yourself because she's going to see through you and see that you have such a NEED for her. Instead you can start going out, meeting people, bettering your social skills, and fucking other girls.