| So I was in the mall today, with three of my friends (all girls). Them being girls and all, and me being a dude, they went off to shop at girls stores and I wandered alone to shop. I thought it would be a perfect opportunity to practice my game.
Approaching women in theory and on paper is much, much, MUCH easier than actually doing it. Every good looking girl I saw in that mall was not only gorgeous but very intimidating to my nerves. Being put in that position of practicing my game in the field made me forget almost everything I've learned in here. I had no opener in mind, I had no sense of game structure, no closers, no natural game at all. I suffered from some AA.
There are a couple prime opportunities, too:
I was in Sportchek and there were two HB8's there, my age or a bit younger, sitting on a bench. I walked past them, and they gave me the eye, I could tell. I couldn't quite tell if it was the bad eye or good eye, but I think it was the good eye. They seemed to like it.
There was an HB9 at a jewelry booth in the mall, and at one point I walked by while she was alone standing at her booth. I checked her out a bit too obviously and I think she noticed (that was a mistake). Then I walked by again, the whole time my mind was screaming at me to talk to her, and I think I might have creeped her out by going past twice.
Then I went to bluenotes and there has an HB7-8 folding jeans. A couple passes of the store were necessary before I could even go in. When I did, I didn't talk to her. She asked me if I needed help and I didn't. Unless she could have helped me with my game.
Anyway, I think the main issue here isn't just a fear of rejection and approaching, it's that I forget my openers and such when I am going into the field. I think if I had a good opener to use, I would have had no problem using it. Well, easier said than done, I guess.
What do you guys think?
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