So today in my Calculus 4 lecture I saw a girl sitting alone in the class. She was blonde and looked fun to talk to so I decided to try out my new found knowledge. Let it be known that the first time I had even heard of this "pick up strategy" was yesterday. I have never seen PUA forums, or even a book on the matter until 2:00 am yesterday. But boy did it help.

I took what Gunwich said to heart so I first pictured myself fucking this girl. Sounds weird but I'm pretty sure thats what your supposed to do, to build the sexual state. I did that then started the conversation asking if the seat next to her was taken. She said it wasn't so I sat down and proceded to ask her name. I ACTUALLY CANT REMEMBER THE NAME NOW! Terrible I know. But anyway, she told me her name and asked me mine, I said I was Jack ______. She thought it was funny I used a last name so I asked hers. She SPELLED IT OUT. Well thanks bitch but I cant remember shit. lol.

So we kept talking and I made my first kino. Pretty easily actually, I didn't look where I was touching, it was natural to the conversation etc. Things were going very well! But then I had to focus on my math lecture and this is when it started to get hairy. I didn't know what to do! I really had to focus on taking notes and stuff for the next 45 minutes or I would fail the course, but I definatly had a good sexual state going. I would try and start up some random conversation, but couldn't really get into it fully because I would have to write something down on the board. I am not sure if the classroom is just a bad enviornment or something.

So overall it was a success. A) She was hot. B) She was in the hottest sorority on campus. C) I initiated a great conversation.

But I do have some questions:
What should I do the next time I see her in class?
She left class early without saying anything to me, is that significant?
How do/Can I flirt and take notes at the same time?

Thanks.

Jack

First off, congratulations! A lot of guys spend days, months, even years reading material before they get over their approach anxiety. You got right in there and fucking did it, and that takes balls. Good work.

Here are some mnemonic tools you might like to use to help remember people's names. Remembering names is important because people feel more comfortable when you use their name when you talk to them. Firstly, when you first meet someone, try to repeat their name during the first few minutes of interaction. Secondly, try to think about a descriptive term about them that rhymes or uses alliteration, for example "Blonde Betty" or "Medschool Michelle" etc. This helps you remember things about them and their name more easily.

About your actual interaction. It seems like you did well, but maybe you tried to push it too far. No need to run game and learn in a lecture at the same time. Talk to her, then just take notes quietly during the lecture, and then just start up the interaction again when class is done. Simple. At the end of class, it would have been good to say "hey it was good to meet you, why don't we exchange numbers so we can study together?" You don't actually have to study, you can call her and say "hey instead of studying, come down to a party my friend is having / a bar me and some friends are gonna be at etc. it'll be a lot more fun than calculus!"

Awesome advice! I really will remember the rhyme with her name, that seems like an instant memory boost. I am lucky and know my friend who knows her name so that will help me this once. You are right, I did try to push it a bit during class. It was not awkward or anything but we are both their to learn first. I like the idea of asking her number by way of studying, then hit her with a banging party you know of. It would have been nice if she hadn't gotten up and left class early. Theres always next time. Speaking of that, What should I do next time? Same old but without introductions? Suggestions?

Next time you see her be warm and friendly, try to get some kino in (that's touching) maybe hug her when you say hi (in Europe we kiss on both cheeks but I got the sense that in the US people only did that with close friends and only on one cheek, which sometimes made it awkward for me!) or touch her arm when you are telling a story or reacting to something she said (NEVER look at the place you touch, it makes it seems unnatural). Try and escalate kino to, for example touching the small of her back while you are talking. Judge her reaction and body language. Make sure she is comfortable with you touching her, and see if her body language is facing towards you or away from you, are her legs crossed towards or away from you, etc. Look for IOIs (indicators of interest) like playing with her hair a lot, laughing at your jokes even when they're not funny, etc. Once you get a few of those, you know for sure you have attraction.

If you feel you have rapport (i.e. you tell stories and joke around like friends) but not attraction (you are not getting IOIs) then you need to break rapport by using a neg, for example say something like "oh that dress is kinda cool, I think one of my friends was wearing that the other day" or "you know, it funny - when you smile like that your nose kinda wrinkles...it's cute" or you can disagree with something she says. Something small that will knock her down a peg, without being a total rapport break (e.g. an insult like "you're actually way fatter than I first thought") Anything that will make her second guess herself and try and build the rapport back up and prove herself to you. Once she's trying to build that rapport and prove herself to you, she's emotionally investing in the interaction, and you're starting to build attraction!

As a final note, the best way to attain rapport is simply to assume it. Friends don't ask about what interests they have and what other classes they are taking, friends trade Family Guy jokes, laugh about a mutual friend's antics, or recommend new albums they just listened to that they really liked. If you just talk to her like she already is a friend, psychologically she will go into "talking to a friend" mode and just naturally assume you must be friends. However, if you don't break that rapport with a neg, you risk getting LJBF'd (Let's Just Be Friends), because you won't transition into attraction building.