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Yup I said it.. and I wil NOT back down.
Here are some things they teach..
*You need to approach ALOT of women to be good with women
*You need to talk 90% of the time (or..be the dancing monkey qualifying the SHIT out of himself) 90/10 rule
*You must demonstrate higher value.
*You need social proof
*You can never get rid of "approach anxiety" (a fake community term)
*AMOG, oh please like other guys are TRYING to make you look bad.
*You need to 'disqualify' a girl that likes you...nice
*Peakocking
Absolute Bullshit.
Approach anxiety comes all down to your mindframe. Change your inner beliefs so that you are the prize, you are desirable, and women are just cute, instead of "sexy, hott, hb10 whatever, and it is gone forever. it is all coming from the way you view things. You cant beat approach anxiety by approaching 500 women. It will come right back 3 days later. Thats because it is not right in your head. Inner game programs are the best for you. I have no approach anxiety, I only had it when I was listening to Mystery, strauss, and whoever else talks about it.
What do I say?? Stories? how do I get from a1 to A3? How do I demonstrate higher value? What do I say after I INITIATE HER? (alot better than 'approach her') Well.... Stop talking and shut the fuck up and let HER talk.. When you most of the talking, all your doing is becoming the entertainer. Why are you trying to be the entertainer when she needs to be the one entertaining you? Are you the man or is she the man? By putting her up on that pedistol, when you do 90% of the talking, all your doing is qualifying the FUCK out of yourself to her. And thats not the way it works, thats not the way its supposed to work. A WOMAN DOES NOT WANT YOU QUALIFYING YOURSELF TO HER. They want to be able to qualify themselves to a man. It doesnt matter HOW strong minded/ business women she is. The less you say the better.
You have to understand guys, the community is built upon..a bunch of guys that have no idea what the Fuck their talking about. They've never really experienced true connection, they dont understand how things really work. And its completely obvious, if they think they have to do 90% of the talking. Its completely obvious. Your going into the interaction saying basically "i dont have what it takes to please this woman, so I need to do everything that I can to show her that im a good guy. verbally, cause I cant do that just by standing there.
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You've just waffled a load of nonsense. Starting with your first point. You can't just change your inner game that easy, it's not that easy. Competence breeds confidence. The whole point of approaching lots of women is purely psychological, and doesn't need to go anywhere. It's the idea that when put into a situation that you're uncomfortable or unconfident, if you're put into it over and over again, you'll become more confident in the situation. It's not a maybe, it's not a might, you WILL naturally become more confident in that situation because it's repeated. Trying to change your inner-game is not a sure fire thing, whereas taking action like approaching will automatically change it the more you do it anyway.
You need to talk 90% of the time? No you don't. The community is always going on about OPEN questions. Adam Lyons said it perfectly that "what I do is put the weight of the conversation, of the interaction, onto her. If I ask her an open question then the social pressure is on her". No one asks you to be a 90% talking dancing monkey. The only time you need to do this, is for about a minute, assuming you're opening a set of multiple women. So you speak at them, entertain them, for 30 seconds, then isolate. Otherwise, no one asks you to be a monkey. The best interactions will be 50/50.
Now, you must demonstrate higher value. Of course you must. I thought this was fairly obvious. Don't get it wrong though, DHV is easy and you don't have to sit there flashing Lamborghini keys to do it. DHV has always been powerful even before PUA. You need to think of it not as a community term, but as a thing outside the community. What is demonstration of higher value. It's just showing something that sets you apart from the crowd. So something you have or have achieved that you've earned and are proud of. A nice hobby, a good job, whatever. The idea is that if you're proud of yourself for something, it'll show, and the women will perceive you of higher value. It's hardly bullshit, impressing women with a good lifestyle has long been the case, even before the community.
You need social proof. No. No one's ever said you need social proof. Social proof isn't necessary and no one is claiming it to be. However it does help a lot, and it's not really hard to get. It's one of those things where you can put in minimal effort and get maximum gain. You don't need to do much to get it, but it helps a crapload, one example being Entourage Game.
You can never get rid of approach anxiety, a fake community term. Okay firstly, you can't have a "fake" term. Psychologically, approach anxiety is correct. It's one of the effects of social anxiety, which a lot of people suffer with, in some way or another. And in the end you can't get rid of it. You can't get rid of a lot of fears, but you can suppress them enough so that they don't affect you. Public speakers. They're always nervous in the back of their mind, even slightly, that something could go wrong, but they've done it enough to not worry about it. Which goes back to the competence breeds confidence point. You can't get rid of it, but you can suppress it. Anyone who says they're not worried the woman could just turn around and tell you to fuck off is a liar, because the woman could be having a bad day or whatever. The idea is you approach them enough to know that that outcome is unlikely, therefore you suppress the anxiety. But it's still there.
AMOG, oh please like other guys are TRYING to make you look bad. Okay they don't necessarily go out of their way to do it. It's a subconcious thing. An Alpha Male is used to being dominant, instinctively. Therefore if anyone comes to challenge the Alpha Male, they need to assert themselves. There are two ways of doing this, naturally. Either killing them, or negating the threat of the enemy, but removing his challenging status. Obviously Alphas don't run around killing people, so instinctively they will assert themselves by removing your high status. They will try to lower it. It's not their fault, it's the way they naturally are. So again, your point is retarded.
Peacocking. I don't get the problem with this? Peacocking is taken from, well, peacocks. They flaunt bright colours to attract women. It's a basic idea but it works. It's not necessary, so don't get confused. No one says you have to do it. But it can help a lot, as an opener, or general conversation.
Okay I'm done now. Rant over.
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