...is admitting you have a problem.
Hey everyone,
Apologies in advance for the 'book', I had lots stored up that I wanted to say and I fully understand if you don't read it. I've finally bit the bullet and signed up, as I need specific help. I must say, forums are my thing, and I'll probably be posting here often. However, whilst I am very social in the cyberworld, it doesn't transfer to real life. Hence why I'm here.
Just a little background: 19, Aussie from England, at Uni, never had any relations with women, and the few female friends I do have are not what I'd call attractive. I think the main problem is that I went to an all-boys school for the latter part of my schooling, and when I was young (5-8) I was picked on by the girls in a nasty way, so I never developed any social skills in that regard. I've always been considered the weird guy/ loner,and I tend to say stuff that's inappropriate in convos, act silly or talk about porn/sexual innuendo when with my few friends, who also are similar to me. I guess I never matured like regular people would. But again, that's why I'm here!! I'd like to believe I'm fairly good looking, especially after coming here for a while and learning about what attraction is and whatnot. Though this could just be a delusion.
Still, i've never had so much as a date or a girl like me in a romantic/sexual way. I hope to learn. One of my main sticking points is I'm shy/nervous, lack confidence. Heck, about three weeks ago I was groped on the arse a couple of times in a club by some random chicks and I got freaked out and left.
Any pointers from the outset? (Personally, I disagree with the Newbie challenge and the 'going up to strangers' thing as I believe it's a cultural thing; whilst it may work in the US nobody does that here and if you did you'd be a weirdo. So please don't suggest that, as much as you have good intentions, because there's no way I'd do it)
Cheers All!!!
CHAT
