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PostPosted: Sun Oct 18, 2009 7:02 am 
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We (As pick up artists) are able to generate attraction in a woman and have her be attracted to us, well, pretty logic, we like her, we make her like us, and in the end we get the girl.
We may want a relationship next, we may want to see her again. The focus of this question is. Can she fall in love with us?
The kind of attraction that we "generate" is more like a challenge attraction, she sees us as a prize. But, is it the kind of attraction that can make them fall in love for us?
Im wondering this, because we as Alpha Males are supposedly wanted and w have options, but once we find a girl we like, she may still see us as a prize, as a challenge, and once she has it, she may ditch it.
Im not sure if IM making myself clear, can a girl fall in love with a PUA? if we dont do all the corny romantic stuff?


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love is basically (at presented by Discovery's Attraction Documentary) Euphoria plus Familiarity.

in short, Love is all in the framing. its still the exact same attraction, plus other elements.


or as the Triangle Theory of Love says its Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment.

The Passion part is the main thing pick up works on, getting a mental and physical attraction.

The intimacy is basically trust and comfort.

and Commitment is that guarantee you'll be there.

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she may still see us as a prize, as a challenge, and once she has it, she may ditch it.
But then she has to work on keeping it as other girls maywould be gunning for the same prize as well.

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can a girl fall in love with a PUA?
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if we dont do all the corny romantic stuff?
If that is not your thing then find a girl that is also not into it as well. :wink:


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Im curious about this because I mean ...
I can be corny and romantic etc...
Which I usually am, once the girl is attracted to me...
I just found out actually, right now that ... we can still be arrogant, and cocky and funny, but have our romantic side I guess, once we get the girl?


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Woman don't necessarily need romance. in the traditional sense. to fall in "love". If a woman is attracted to you, all the normal shit you would do anyway will somehow seem romantic in her eyes. Likewise if she isn't attracted to you, the most romantic things you could possibly do or say, would seem creepy and weird.

Your idea of "love" is probably based on chick flicks and valentine's day cards. The truth is that a lot of the time women fall in "love" with unromantic assholes. Women fall in "love" for the weirdest and most illogical reasons. A lot of times it's daddy issues or or the naivety of youth, but it is usually the influx of confusing hormones and endorphins. I think this is why the divorce rate is so high. The idea of "love" has been cheapened and degraded. It has become a misnomer for the high associated with pair-bonding.

I believe that Love is a commitment to care and support another person, not a feeling that can come or go, not a fleeting experience of a rush or a high, but rather dedication, intimacy,and compassion.


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I just found out actually, right now that ... we can still be arrogant, and cocky and funny, but have our romantic side I guess, once we get the girl?
If you fall in love with someone, would you still love them if they changed into a completely different person?


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as Chief has pretty much indirectly stated...

the person you are during the pick up, is the person you should be in the relationship...and this person should be the real YOU. Sure your ACTIONS might differ when in a relationship eg. telling her you like/love her if she was your gfriend, but you wouldnt do this while picking her up...however your general NATURE and persona should remain the same. ie. you should be YOU at all times!

what might help is if you dont classify yourself as a PUA, but rather someone that is simply becoming better with women. people seem to think that they need to leave their true self behind and become this new PUA figure. this is crap.


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as Chief has pretty much indirectly stated...

the person you are during the pick up, is the person you should be in the relationship. your ACTIONS might differ when in a relationship (eg. tell her you like/love her if she was your gfriend, but you wouldnt do this while picking her up)...however your general NATURE and persona should remain the same. ie. you should be YOU at all times!
I agree, to a certain extent.

I found out you get away with way more shit if you've built enough trust and are in a relationship.

The longer you're in it, the more stupid shit you can do.

Like I dare you to JUST pick up a girl and cheat on her the day after - then do that to a girl you've been dating 2 years, they'll trust you.

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Like I dare you to JUST pick up a girl and cheat on her the day after - then do that to a girl you've been dating 2 years, they'll trust you.
hence my example of only telling a girl you like/love her if she is your gfriend and to steer away from saying things like this during the pick up....ie. your actions change when in a relationship because as you rightly say...those actions are now more 'appropriate'. (not cheating though...thats just not cool ;)


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There is a difference between changing who you are and being romantic.
not to knit pick here, but I do believe they are linked. who we are is determined by our belief system, which in turn determines our behavior/actions.

if you are being romantic but dont really enjoy it, well then youre just not being you.

if you are being romantic as this comes naturally to you and you enjoy it, then you are being you.

if your beliefs about being romantic change (from liking it to thinking its for the birds...and you really start believing this), then you are changing as a person.


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I can fall in love with a rock if it told me all the right things.

What separates PUAs from Rocks from cars?

I've fallen in love with my car - there's an emotional bond.

If I crash my car I'd feel sad.

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The idea of love to a woman is different to the idea of love men have.

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mostly because women are grown up on fairy tales of white knights, and endless loves.

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We (As pick up artists) are able to generate attraction in a woman and have her be attracted to us, well, pretty logic, we like her, we make her like us, and in the end we get the girl.
We may want a relationship next, we may want to see her again. The focus of this question is. Can she fall in love with us?
The kind of attraction that we "generate" is more like a challenge attraction, she sees us as a prize. But, is it the kind of attraction that can make them fall in love for us?
Im wondering this, because we as Alpha Males are supposedly wanted and w have options, but once we find a girl we like, she may still see us as a prize, as a challenge, and once she has it, she may ditch it.
Im not sure if IM making myself clear, can a girl fall in love with a PUA? if we dont do all the corny romantic stuff?
Yea these guys are right. PUA is just a game they play to keep the girl attracted. After you get your heart borken enough times you start to play back. After you get the girl you just be comfortable. You won't be able to be comfortable if you are not natural. It will come in time. You will become yourself.

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