I dont really have a problem talking to girls, or acting sexual around them once I get to know them well enough.......but my issue is my fear of actually going through with it seeing as I've never done it before. I almost did a couple months ago but I was nervous as fuck (and it didn't happen, obviously). This is also part of the reason I dont really even care to get laid, so I dont wind up fucking it up with my fear of it......and I want to get over it so I thought I'd make a seperate topic seeing as I tried in another topic but that didn't help.

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I'm also scared that I'd wind up doing a shitty job on the fucking part (even though I have plenty of foreplay experience)

what are you worried about though? Like are you worried that you dont know how to go through the motions, or worried about lasting long enough or what?

I'm pretty sure I know the motions, but most likely lasting long enough and being good enough with the motions, seeing as I wouldn't need the girl going around telling her friends that I suck at it.

How many years have passed from the Caveman days until we have internet have men had sex? You just do it.. if you didn't do good, who cares, if she likes you, she doesnt give a fuck how you fuck. I know from straight experience. Your fine, sex will come naturally.

Theres a story about a man who was trapped in a Vietnam prison camp. He was horrible at golf, but in the camps, with nothing better to do, he mentally envisioned his swing. Over and over again for 5 years, he mentally practiced his swing. When he was rescued and returned home, he went to play golf. He shot a perfect game.

This was a story told to us at our local lair meet. (Thanks CC)

The point is, if you envision yourself doing something enough times, you are actually practicing. While this may not apply in regards to the desensitization of your member, it still applies in regards to technique and mind set (your anxiety). I'm sure you've watched enough porn to know exciting moves, so the next time your rubbing one out, try to imagine yourself getting through foreplay, taking off her panties, insertion, position switching, slowing down when your about to blow (so that you dont), and eventually, ripping off your condom, beating off in her face, and saying "take this."

If you get yourself in the habit of mentally doing exercises like approaching or fucking, it actually makes for an easier time when it comes time to perform. You feel better prepared.

Hope this helps!

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Crowd to Crowd

take a few shots.

nothing like some social lubricant to make things easy

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Every Saint has a Past, Every Sinner has a Future

Rule of thumb: If you want to get over a fear of something, do that thing that you fear.

Fear of heights? Ride a roller coaster.

Approach Anxiety? Approach.

Sexual Anxiety? Whip your dick out, put a condom on, and do what you were born to do.

Hmmmmmm........this seems to help the most. Thank you ^_^
If it was that easy, I wouldn't've made this topic -_-

It is that easy. You're just making it harder by fighting yourself about it.

It's like, if you're afraid of heights, and you go bungee jumping. The first step off that cliff or bridge may seem really hard, and you might want to make a long post on a forum about how to get rid of your fear so that you could become courageous enough to take that first step, but in reality it's really easy to put one foot in front of the other.

Just breathe and take action.

Seriously, did you even read the couple posts I made earlier about it, or did you just read the title and go from there? I see it as an honest problem, and came here for a well thought out answer (ie: what Crowd posted), not something that's borderline high school.

I read what you had to say, and ignored the excuses you should not even be making.

Grow the fuck up. If you don't want to listen to advice that works then just stay in your comfort zone and stop whining.

Thread locked to avoid a flame war.