Hey Who
you have found the right place to post
I’m new to the forum but not to women and not to being the dude that everyone likes. You really need to start by changing your attitude and your level of confidence before you can change that of others, I guess many would call it your inner game, this may not be exactly what you are looking for
http://www.bristollair.com/inner-game.html but it could be a step in the right direction.
It is hard to step out of any stereotype but it can be done, which is what I assume you are trying to do. I used to be well liked but not for my sex appeal.
I was the school captain and Dux (highest score leaving school) for my year, but wasn't given the attention of the many girls which I hoped for. For me developing a quick witted sense of humor and a natural charm was the cornerstone to my new found success and popularity, though I kept many of the same friends, they viewed me in a different light.
I found that joining different social groups were you can establish
ANY social identity without pressure was a key aspect. I associated with as many different social groups as possible.
Though this did take some time!
I soon established my self as the cool sexy guy that everyone respected and wanted to talk to . My primary social group was Venturers, you are probably not familiar with it but it is basically an older age group to Scouting (if u still don’t know it jump on Wikipedia) it is basically like minded people doing a bunch of activities and having regular meetings and larger gatherings several times a year (a great place to meet new people and try pick up as many HB’s as you can).
So my suggestion is find a group which best suits the personality you wish to have /be more like and spend as much time as you can with them. I am sure some forum members will disagree because this is not exactly sticking to the "Game", and I'm sure their argument is valid, but I have found that it is easy to have various influences rub off on you. E.G spending time in a foreign country and adopting part of their accent, you don’t notice at first but eventually you have it. It is a slow process and can go unnoticed for some time, this way you still retain all the same friends/social network and they become used to your new and improved self. Alternately find a book/move/T.V show with a character you want to be more like and closely follow the character which appeals to you most, watch and read over and over again and you will soon notice you use the same mannerisms or speech patterns, its very weird and can be easily broken but it is a quick and superficial way to change.
I hope this was been of some help and if it’s not what you wanted post again!
Peace
Simmer