| I had posted recently about casual first date tips, so I figure I'd let you know how it worked out...
Felt my phone vibrate during class yesterday; I had received a text message. I saw it was from the girl I was set to go on a date with in about half an hour. In the past here at college (I'm currently a senior), I've been flaked on a bit. Close to date time in these cases, I had received "the text," as the girl would explain why she couldn't make the date for whatever reason. Today, I saw the text was from her. I rolled my eyes and clicked to see what it read. "We still having lunch at (the student union?). This first date - something I hadn't really been on in a long while - was going to happen! And btw, yes I replied that I'd see her soon.
My date shows up right on time. She explained that she got there a bit early, so she picked up her food already (she was holding it). Of course, I still had to get my food. She seemed happy to wait on the line with me as I picked up my lunch. After that, we eventually found a table and the real part of the lunch date began.
Things were starting off well. From the very beginning of this adventure today, our conversation was flowing great. It was non-stop both ways. Then, about 15-20 minutes in, I received a big sh!t test, though it wasn't from her. A guy advertising a paintball place came up to us and began talking. My date and I made eye contact, and she had the "What are we going to do?" look. I could have told the guy to buzz off, I could have quickly ignored him, or - worse - I could have lost my composure. Luckily, I was as cool as the other side of the pillow. I treated the salesmen as if he were one of my friends, setting up a nice chat we all had for a few minutes, as he explained his product. Once he left, we didn't lose a step. I was rolling.
From start to finish, we were talking and having a good time. Stunningly, there were no pauses or awkward silences the entire time from either side. We both got to know one another better, we were both cracking jokes or telling interesting stories, we talked about a wide range of topics, and I was able to apply a little bit of kino.
Since we both had class right after lunch, she checked her watch. I was stunned to learn how long we had been talking. I figured this date would last maybe an hour. We were approaching 1:30. I was stunned when I learned what time it was, I guess we really hit it off. We both left and walked together, as we were heading in the same direction anyway. I was surprised to learn that she had a "very tough" exam literally right after our date.
When we parted, we hugged (remember: first date/casual lunch date), both of us had a good time and I made a C&F comment at the end that made her laugh.
As you can tell, I had a great time and I feel she enjoyed herself too. She is home for this weekend (today-Sun) and I will be home the following weekend (Fri-Mon afternoon), so I figure we can set up a second date somewhere in the middle of the week when we both are free. I'll make the plans, though I still need to figure out where I'd take her - or for that matter, figure out what a second date usually involves.
Presuming this second date happens, whether it's bowling (expensive here because its a nice bowling alley, but w/e), dinner (I have a gift card to a cool place) or a movie (we have similar interests), it should be fun. Additionally, my goals would be to get closer to her and go for that first kiss. Do you guys make anything of this FR? How many days after a first date do I call her to set up Date #2? - I'm thinking tomorrow evening, as it's two days after the first date.
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That is a good point though. This first date (sorta like a coffee date) was simply to get to know her. I had met her once before and that was almost four weeks ago.