So I know this girl through school, we have started to do some hw together and sit near each other in class. Yadda yadda, I work the C&F, escalating kino and such and she seems to return it (touching me on the leg to get my attention in class and such). She has invited me to come out with her friend before, but im not 21 for another month so i turned down a trip to the bar and suggested another time.

Anyways, I was planning to ask this girl our but I recall her once saying something like "I'm not that into it but my boyfriend is" like a month or so ago. She has never brought up a bf outside of that one comment, and is married to some girl on FB, but has a lot of pics with the same dude (could just be close friends?)

Anyways, do you guys think I should just proceed as planned without any regard to this and just plan on having to react to "i have a boyfriend", or is there a way for me to figure this out without looking like an AFC?

Please respond!

well dude.. im gonna say what i think and that is she probably has a boyfriend.(but anything is possible and she might not have one, or they could be towards the end of there relationship and shes looking to replace him) i would say all is not lost tho if she is inviting you to go out with her friends she will probably socially proof the shit out of you if shes not trying to get with you to one of her girl friends and if thats acceptable to you i say keep on keep'n on.

You need to figure out if that matters to you. If the answer is no then research the boyfriend destroyer (BFD). Understand women play leap frog with men. They will stay with a man even if they don't want to and look for someone new. So while she might have a BF she might be looking for a replacement.

In the works of Positive K "what's your man got to do with me? I'm not trying to hear that see".

Yeah it really doesn't matter to me. She isn't your typical floozy, but I was going to go with something like "I didn't ask him out, I asked you" or something along those lines.

I'm not really looking for another friend right now you know? I'm looking for a girl my preference would be that things don't become awkward between us since we have a bunch of classes together (college). At the same time, at this point I don't care about that either its just a preference.

JayWa came up with a fantastic solution to this.

Make some cocky funny remark on something funny/stupid/weird that she does and then shoot the following line:

"How does your boyfriend put up with you?"

Genious!

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10 things I wish someone taught me about Pick Up 10-things-i-wish-someone-taught-me-vt53087.html

1. there is no need to 'ask her out'
2. it doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend

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So I get the second part. But what do you mean when you say there is no need to "ask her out"? How am I supposed to go out with her if I don't at least suggest we do something together? I'm here to work on my game to boost confidence and not miss out on opportunities, not just random f-closes i guess.

not 'asking her out' though.

its just hanging out.

you're putting unnecessary pressure on the situation by framing it as 'asking her out'.

treat it exactly the same as you hanging out with your buddies....except with slightly more eroticism lol

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This is GOOD! I have to keep this in my mind!

[ Johnny B ]

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