Quick question...my oneitis in on a trip to the USA and recently updated her facebook but sending out a group email - me and her family.

So it wasn't directly to me.

Do I respond now, wait or don't at all?

My instincts which have been wrong many times says to play it cool and at least wait.

The scenario:

She is up in Texas learning all this leatherwork stuff from one of the leading authorities - yeah he's a guy but he's about 65 but it still gave me the shits when I was with her as as a guy I know what he is thinking.

He is of course interested in her being that she's an attractive and talented 33 year old and will shower her with gifts etc while she is there are he has tried this shit before. Already made a set of tools for her and "she is so lucky".

So back to my question do I respond or not..being cool and not caring and going hey awesome you are over there have fun and catch up when you get back. Tease her about how some grandfather is trying to get into her pants - which I am sure will piss her off.

or just nothing and wait for her to contact me when she gets back...

And yes I am concentrating on starting to meet other women as FFS I shouldn't as the prize really put up with this shit.

First off, this comes off a little paranoid. You're assuming that because you are into her everyone else is too. Maybe this senior citizen uses leather working as a way to meet women (after all, you say he has done this before). Isn't it more likely that this is not the case though? After all, if he teaches this stuff trying to f-close every woman he teaches he's going to ruin his business. He may also just be a lonely old man who is looking forward to a (non-sexual) companion. The possibilities are endless, but I'll assume you have information you didn't share.

Take an interest, be excited for her and, FOR GOD'S SAKE, do not act like a jealous AFC. If she thinks you are threatened by an old man you send all the wrong signals. No woman wants to be with someone who is insecure, they want alpha-males. If you just stop talking to her out of nowhere she's either going to see right through you or think you just aren't interested.

I'm not sure what your relationship is like with this chick, if you've already been LJBF'd; who cares, move on. If you're dating her say it sounds cool and you hope she learns alot, and that you want to hear all about it when she gets back. While she's gone post status updates that make it sound like she's missing out on great times by not hanging out with you like "Great night, last night. Lot's of fun and laughs, I can't believe (random guy friend's name) actually did that last night... Wow". When she gets back and wants to hear about all the fun times just say "Yeah, it was alot of fun. Nothing any more memorable than the usual shenanigans though". If this is someone you like, but have no real history with write her a letter saying "Leatherworking huh? That's interesting, you'll have to show me your skills when you get back".

In general, it sounds like you're worried about nothing. She's interested in Leather working and wants to learn more. She wants to learn from someone credible so she is going to learn from this guy. The chances that this guy is some mPUA that's going to charm her out of her unsuspecting pants is so miniscule you'd be better off worrying that Brad Pitt or some famous sex symbol is going to show up at the same time to learn leather working too. Or better yet, just don't worry about anything.

Yeah after I wrote this I realised that I was being a paranoid dickhead.. I did respond wishing her to have a great time asnd to check out some of the cool stuff she was going to bring back.

Jokingly told her to watch out for the guy and that's we'd catch up when she gets back so and hassled her about picking up cowboys while she was over there.

Anyway Thanks for the kick in the arse..