interesting story.....

So I'm in my 5th week of college and about 2 weeks ago I realize theres this really cute girl on my floor that I havent met. Not exactly my usual type of girl, she hangs out with a lessor valued social group she doesnt party much and she just got out of a relationship. I'd describe her as a good girl. So I ask my roomie (who is in her little social circle) to introduce me sometime. I come home one friday night with another girl and my roomie is sick and puking his brains out and what do u know this girl i wanted to meet is in my room taking care of him. so i meet her just before im about to fuck some other girl.

We start talking and seeing eachother through the halls pretty much daily. The eye contact and smiles she gives tells me shes interested. I start introducing myself to all of her friends just to get more comfortable with her and me being around. Like half the kids she hangs out with like her alot but none of them have game. and The kids and girls I normally hang out with are definitely more popular around campus and what not. So i figure my value is already set up. So last friday I was in her room watching a movie with her and her friends and she asks me to go make popcorn with her down the hall. soo im like okay shes comfortable with me but is it too soon to make a move? I dont try to kiss her but we wre rubbing against eachother and playfully nudging eachother. and i got her number finally. so the nexttt night i go out partying. come back trashed with another girl again. Of course shes out in the hall when im unlocking my door... SHIT!

soooo she didnt seem to mind too much.. we keep texting daily and im usually the one asking most of the questions... Asked her to go get dinner sometime last week she never gave me a definite answer. always maybe or some bull. i knew she wanted to but shes hesitant any ideas why this was???

but anyway lets get to the juicy shit...

this past thursday night we watch another movie in her room this time less people and im sitting next to her on her bed constantly touching the whole time. after the movies over i go into my room and text her to come say goodnight. shes comes by and I pull her in to kiss me and shes like "i can't" but shes holding her body close to me and basically teasing me. I'm like "why?" and she said idk about 100 times before i got an answer. something about all the other guys on the floor and causing drama. I made it seem like i was okay with it and she gave in and we started kissing. after a few mins my roomie knocks and comes in and she tells me not to tell anyone. I agree but then later that night i had to tell my roomie. who of course tells just about everyone on our floor.

The next night we go see this show on campus and we're there with all her friends. She's kind of like ignoring me. i kinda got mad and we had like a convo that went like this...

me: sorry about last night maybe we should just be friends
her: are you sure?
me: yeah i dont like being secretive
her: yeah well im definitely not looking to settle down into anything. i just got out of a relationship and sorry that i want to keep it a secret??
me: yeah my mistake
her: okay??

honestly i know i fucked up by saying this bc i def wanted to keep hooking up... and now shits just awkward. especially bc everyone knows we hooked up so she doesnt trust me. and prolly thinks im an asshole. the thing is now i hang out with some of her friends and me and her still talk but its just weird. so now i see her all the time and she just gives me dirty looks and makes smart remarks to anything i say....

any ideas?

1. You violated her trust. Not just a little, a lot. When she specifically asked you to keep something between you two. That's a big problem, because in her mind, you have already demonstrated that you are not emotionally invested enough to get involved with her. You are going to have some problems trying to unravel that "kiss and tell" title. Moral of the story: learn how to keep a woman's secrets.

2. You are preselected (which is good), but you are too preselected. She has seen you about to have sex with two different girls within a short time. This might be okay, but the stigma that she will begin to associate with you is that you are the "notch in the bedpost" type guy who is driven by his urges. You have to show her that you are not that kind of guy, and that you value women (or at least her) for more than the physical rewards you get from her attention. The problem is that (see #1) you have displayed a counter-productive behavior to her.

Reverse the situation: you meet a girl who you see hooking up with random guys, who tells her friends about what goes on between you and her, and then puts you into the LJBF zone. Do you see your mistakes? More importantly, do you see how you can do better next time?

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thanks for the reply lefty and is there a way to make things at least some what comfortable again as friends or do i just wait it out?

The only way to improve the situation is to remain close to her social circle. Getting into her social circle was maybe the best thing you could have done, kudos.

Keep up the preselection, continue gaming other women, but respect their secrets. If she ever starts talking about you and her see where the conversation goes. You basically have to tell her 'I've made mistakes in the past. But I really like you and would like to be more than friends'. I'm sure she does too, but doesn't want to get with a guy that hurts girls.

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