My hands are tied. Rules are rules...right?
My views:
No disrespect or attack was directed at the OP. I feel like if you can't truly go through a emotional roller coaster with someone, then you can't guide them to the right information.
I could spend hours posting and posting, and telling people the ideals of positive thinking! I could even line out all the beautiful knowledge in regards to lifestyle, personal growth,being a man, dating, etc.. and what it means to contribute to the world and to have it contribute back in your life. Here is the deal...
"When the student is ready the teacher will appear"
It only works for people who are awake and have had that realization in their life that promotes them to go forward and research anything in the self improvement field. This realization is connected to their growth, their persistence and their overall success.
Its sweet outlining forum rules, but at the same time it limits the ability to a extremity for one individual to be able to communicate through to another individual and have them understand and receive the message.
You've all known me long enough to know that I'm never a asshole for the sake of being rude. I generally want to get within the essence of a person to do something, in this case ignite that fire.
People come here under 3 ideologies
They are here because:
1.) They are fed up with their life, and are hungry for knowledge. These people are open to all sorts of information in their effort to grow, and will stop at nothing to achieve it. Eventually their results will come, they will have cultivated the right emotions to correctly attract and seduce the women they like, and they will live happy lives.
2.) They come here desperate and pitiful in search for a hand to hold on to. These people will read the material, seminar junk the crap out of free seminars, establish themselves in the community, and do absolutely NO work to better their lives. They simply want to be part of a movement which is enough for them, the success doesn't matter, even though they want it to! they cant find a way to make it happen... Everyone in this forum is happy to validate these kinds of people and no one is there to challenge their thinking and confront them in order to arouse some emotion in them to move forward.
3.) ----- Not important -----
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The first ideology is simple, you give the student as much information as you can, he is hungry, willing to grow, willing to learn... he will do anything, just point him in the direction and he will force himself through hell in order to get to heaven. This person will succeed, and for the minority of you, well thats how you are. Keep pushing, focus on your game, and plow through yourself and your emotions in order to understand everything in your surroundings.
Its like Defragmenting your computer, knowledge is all over the place, but eventually it comes together, you know where things go, and amongst that you find yourself and where you stand. These people have OPEN minds! They know that once you know where the pieces fit, its just a matter of putting the puzzle together.
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The second ideology is difficult to work with. The OP is a perfect example of this "I'm 40, and I'm helpless". I could sit down with the OP, and if he pms me Id be more then happy to give him any advice and to talk to him... he would listen to it, nod, understand it, and not do anything to change his life.
I have found that the most profound way to get instant results with this type of person is to work with the emotions he most understands. Those being frustration, anger, self pitty, and to take hose emotions, and amplify them.
Now when I do this, I'm not being a rude to this person, I'm not 6 years old, I've posted hundreds of threads on this forum, allot useful to many people! I don't outright attack anyone for anything... You have to understand that this is a medium for starting a process. And this medium is not the same as making them feel miserable so they will brake down and cry... no! This medium is to channel those emotions and ignite that initial spark of realization that i described above. Once thats done, you can adequately work with the student to release all his pain, take up and begin cultivating positive habits and behaviors one step at a time.
Now I respect the rules of this forum and the moderators decision to enforce them. But the question should really be posed, are we helping? or are we here to just discuss and send people on their way? are we making a difference? are we being heard? or are we just standing by and moderating a form? All these questions are rhetorical and they don't require or deem any response!
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No thread hijacking means that you don't go off on your own tangents about how you like to coach people and how successful you are at it
Regarding thread hijacking.
It has nothing to do with thread hijacking. Its to enforce that a certain individual has rank. Generally if we look at everyone who comes from a order of self pitty, we realize that they have a ranking system established for everything. This is embedded from early childhood. Remember back in primary school? who was the strongest in your school? who was the hottest girl? who was the second strongest or second hottest? We have these system and we believe in them, thats partly why we fail so miserably. So understand when I use something along the lines of "I've had success with students, coaching" that comes from a place of authority, and its bound to be respected! This will allow for the individual to deem the information im giving to him more important and thus regard it in a higher value (Its like modifying the matrix in order to get results from the student, I don't advertise my business here, nor have I linked anything associating my work on here. Thus the assumption of thread hijacking to boaster my ego is outright mislead).
But all of this is so basic... I was hoping it was picked up on. But... since this is a forum, allot of inflictions are missing, hence it becomes very easy to box me in, and brand me as a forum hooligan
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that you listen to that comment and either ignore it
Its like a dyslexic individual trying teach you how to count, when your in fact working on a thesis comprising of very fine calculus and quantum physics. But i suppose if my intention wasn't clear or evident to everyone...
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I hope this sheds light.
Lastly keep in mind that this is a forum, we use certain social codes to decode and encode messages for communicating with each other. Its limited to the variable of perception and understanding...
Example:
"your such a asshole"
You can perceive this in a positive light as a joke or a negative light as a derogatory comment. So which do you pick? and why?
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I was so confused why this thread discussion was quoting posts that weren't here. I thought I was going crazy.
Due to forum rules I'm assuming things were muted.
CHAT
