So a few months ago I met this girl at a party and immediately was attracted she's just my type and pretty cute. Getting her # was no problem it was offered, one drunk night she basically exclaimed her attraction for me,etc. We've talked pretty consistently since beginning of the summer but only going out for parties and such she lives like 30 mins away. Anyway I bring her home one night really late and watch a movie; shes playing with my hair and cuddled up on the couch so I lean over and kiss her as this was the obvious next step. She saw my roommate that night as he was going to bed (not really a good looking guy) found him on facebook and now chats him up pretty well the same she did me back when we first met. He even showed me where she sent a message saying something like "im NOT staying in Chris' bed again and risk him trying to kiss me again" which literally kinda shook my world up for a moment. I guess she likes him shrug its shitty but tonight all of us are going out to see Afroman and I'm bringing a few other hot girls. I'd like for "preselection" and jealousy to respark interest I really dont know what those messages are about as she obviously is the one who initiated it. Things like this is one of the reason girls irritate me, however I'm just going to keep my abundance mentality and let it roll.

It doesn't matter what you do or say or how good your game is, if a girls not attracted to you then she's not attracted to you. That's her problem don't let it be your problem. Your are who you are and if a HB doesn't like who you are then move along and find another HB who IS attracted to you.

I completely disagree and so would most if not all mPUA. Attraction is far more then looks. Clearly this girl doesn't have an issue with his looks or she wouldn't have started with him in the first place.

To the OP. How it happen I don't know but somehow your roommate out AMOG you. Hehe it happens. With the game it's not hard to win her back but with the sea of women out there is it worth the effort it might put on your friendship with you roommate? Sometimes it's best to just cut the strings and move on.

i agree however my roommate should have cut ties with her from the beginning and i think mainly its a pride issue unfortunately. Think back to the game when Mystery's gf gets fucked and it brings down the house because he's in awe that it could actually happen haha thats kind of what i feel like. he hid it all week until i called him out on it.

They Call Me Smooth wrote: Yeah... well somethings definately going on if this girl simply saw ChrisLove's roommate and starts chatting to him on facebook behind his back, and telling him that she doesn't want to kiss ChrisLove again.

They Call Me Smooth wrote: I don't know what you mean because looks play a part in attraction.

they've never hung out or anything so part of me thinks shes just being a girl and using him to try to get me to go for her more etc but who knows.

She still acts the same as she always has ;only reason I even got a hunch was from his different demeanor change all of a sudden


if she likes him i think its their similar styles i live in a very "hippy" town so you don't see a lot of RL, Lacoste,etc except in the fraternities but I still dress like that and pretty much the only one ever at a party or outing with that style.

If she really does have an interest in him its w/e I guess but I think I should make mention of the fact it reall shouldn't be something we do I would NEVER EVER try to tlak to a girl he brings over its just part of the guy code to me.

I like this girl more than the others but then again i do have 2-3 other girls i kind of like coming as well. We'll see what happens after the weekend

Antic never said that attraction was based on looks. Attraction is or is not. You are right that it's not about looks. I agree with antic in the sense that if a girl lost attraction (she had it in at first if I read the OP corectly) it's gogin to be hard to change that. I woudn't blame it on your roomate. Preselection/Jalousy might be your best be to 'respark' the attraction switch. Let's see how that works for you. If I'm going to criticize something out of your game it might be that you dragged this over too long a period of time.
This is what I'm talking about. You slipped from attractive and mysterious to knowned and reliable. Waited too long. The window of opportunity closed.

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I can wholeheartedly agree with that statement. There's a story behind it tho no excuses needs to be fixed and get back to where i used to be but..

I used to be a really solid closer usually having a girl in bed within the first night if not then the second really consistently but would hardly have any ltr's or the same girls around for any amount of time. That bothered me but still wasn't enough to make me change my ways because well we all love random 1 night stands. About 7-8 months ago I was at a party in my apt complex by myself mainly a bunch of guys there and i was smashed. Well I was gaming one of the only girls there and doing alright I think hard to tell because I really was just obliterated well I end up getting taken outside by 2-3 guys and had a knife pulled on me and it scared the shit out of me. I noticed an immediate change the following weekend that i was much more reserved and conservative in my antics and still see the changes and effects of that night to this day. I've really got to step up my closing game a lot.

You are right he didn't say anything about looks but he did say "If doesn't matter what you do or say" and thats the part I disagree with. He can't change his looks but how he approaches the target he can. How she precives him can be changed. How she rates him against other males can be changed.

Sorry but if you think that if a girl isn't attracted to you that it's game over then you clearly don't understand the game and need to learn more. The game is there to build the attraction not run away because it isn't there from the start.

Oh ok, I think I missread your original reply. It's true that you didn't call him on thinking it was 'look' based.

I agree here too. Creating attraction is the bread and butter of PUA. I said that if you loose attraction it's very hard to get back. If you run if it isnt' there in the first place you are a AFC. If you persist when you have lost attraction when you had gained it then you are no better. You area better oft to start anew then win back that attraction you lost. That's all I'm saying.

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Isn't that pretty much the advise I gave him? The only thing I see us disagreeing one is the level of diffaculty it is to win back the attraction. I've lost and won back attraction all the time while sarging.

And I agree. As I said to the OP "with the sea of women out there is it worth the effort". If it were me I wouldn't bother trying to win her back.

ChrisLove - Why do you want to get this girl back? Any girl that does that sort of thing is not worth keeping really. Secondly let your roommate have her. If he wants that type of girl let him have her. She will find another guy to move on to after she is done with your roommate. Ya you messed up with the attraction and all. But dude go out and find other girls as others have said.

Why the fuck would you see Afroman?

honestly its probably more of an ego thing than anything i really dont consider my roommate that good looking of a guy and definetly not the kind of guy i want to be losing a girl to. i've not paid her a ton of attention up until here recently. why was i stand off-ish i really dont know because she is the kind of girl i'd date.


why would I wanna see afroman? he's the shit! great show. The night went really well too I had girl from thread and 2 others present with me i think girl from thread just got jealous or something she kind of went off into the crowd.