Whaddup, yeah, it's been a minute.

So here goes.

My ex texted me the other day and said she had a dream about me.

Went like this.

X: I had a crazy dream about you
Me: That was random. Hope it was good
X: Pretty awesome.
Me: Thats random. I've been told I'm good in dreams, but amazing in person.
X: You stole me lol
Me: Sounds like something I would do. So what happened after I stole you?
X: I don't know.
Me: Soooooo it was awesome I stole you?
X: LOL it was just funny. Happened at xxxx, and you were drinking a chocolate malt.


Anyway... there is more. But whatev, I am not trying to bore you guys, just trying to get into the mind of a girl who I truely belive is a sociopath.

How would you fellas interpret this? This is the first I have heard from her in months.

CK

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Woot.


I'm guessing she wants attention from an awesome guy.

Probably is trying to lure you back in by admitting a secret like that. I'd guess her intention is to explain a few details to get you attracted to her again, then exploit the event of you liking her for selfish, ego-tistical elevation.

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Yeah, I'd agree with Jav definately......attention seeking..... could flip it and tell her to stop thinking about you, its creeping you out??

You can slice up a dream and serve it up countless different ways. Here are a few thoughts:

1. She's could be lying about the dream; perhaps she missed you just enough to make something up in order to get back in touch with you.

2. On the other hand, if the dream is true, there's a good chance that "you" in her dream is not "YOU" at all but instead somebody she recently met. (Perhaps a day or two prior to having the dream) You could share some traits with this guy. Perhaps this guy gives her similar emotions that you once gave her. Putting you in the place of the guy can be a defensive mechanism for her nervousness around him. Calling you can be her way of separating "YOU" from "you". Maybe she is ready to move on?

. . . Just some thoughts.

Thanks for the input fellas. I agree that she was probably just looking for attention. I always think this girl is playing an angle. Her and I haven't been together in a year+. So it's not like this is a recent break up.

I am probably reading too much into it. When she says It is basically awesome that I stole her, it makes me think otherwise. Her and I have a crazy past. She is always looking for something better and I thought that her and I had more than what was there. Anyway, I moved on long ago... I was really curious what you guys thought.

Thanks again.

CK

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Thanks for the input fellas. I agree that she was probably just looking for attention. I always think this girl is playing an angle. Her and I haven't been together in a year+. So it's not like this is a recent break up.

I am probably reading too much into it. When she says It is basically awesome that I stole her, it makes me think otherwise. Her and I have a crazy past. She is always looking for something better and I thought that her and I had more than what was there. Anyway, I moved on long ago... I was really curious what you guys thought.

Thanks again.

CK

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Are you serious about the sociopath part? I'm a little interested because I am reading a book about the psychology of sociopaths.

She was very manipulative. She would do something stupid, then change the subject and cry about it. She would then say how awful she felt, and then do something even worse. It was like she would act like she was really sorry about what she did, and believed she was in the moment, but in all actuality she felt no remorse. She was/is very shallow and narcisistic. Everything is all about her.

I believe she was/is always seeing multiple guys. It is like "what can you do for me?" kind of attitude. The bouncer of the club her and I always went to said after her and I broke up she was hooking up and with guys at the club behind her new douchebag bf's back.

One of my boys asked her one time, "So Chino picked you up and took you out tonight, and bought your drinks, and you guys had a good time, but what do you do for him?" She paused... looked at me and said "Uhhhh... I don't know, why don't you tell him."

We broke up like a night later. She asked me a few weeks after why I didn't fight for her. I told her, "why should I fight for someone who wouldn't do the same for me?"

Sounds like a sociopath to me. Does it to you? Of all the things I have realized about girls I am into in the past few years, is I like hot crazy bitches apparently.

CK

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Definitely could be.
The book I am reading ("The Sociopath Next Door"), says that 4% of all people are sociopaths. That mean 1 in 25 people feel no remorse or higher emotions whatsoever. I figure due to the numbers alone this is a subject worth learning about. 1 in 25 means, in a club with 500 people there are on average 20 sociopaths.

The worst part about sociopaths is that they aren't motivated by connections to other human beings, they primary motivation is usually self-gratification, self-glorification, or control over other human beings. And they are good at control, they have been practicing their entire lives. Which makes them a destructive force to be reckoned with. They have virtually no limits to their behavior and a fake charm so strong that most people are defenseless against it. They are experts at camouflage. They are so good at blending in and looking normal, that most people wouldn't even be able to distinguish them. More than that, they are usually seen as the ideal person by others, since that is what they are trying to mimic. They are the proverbial wolf in sheep's clothing.

Supposedly the numbers are lower in women, 1% I think. But I figure a female sociopath is even more dangerous than a male. Simply due to the fact that they have inherent sexual control over men, and because society is much more trusting of women.

lol @ woman dreaming about chocolate

Chino,

I'm not sure if I agree with your diagnosis, especially after reading Kalel's short synopsis of "The Sociopath Next Door". Perhaps your ex-girlfriend is merely suffering from Womanitis? There's a sure fire way to check for this. Ask her to come over and remove her panties. . . now look very carefully. Does she have a vagina? ... Yup, I'm going with Womanitis.

Let's have some respect for "Sociopaths" and reserve that diagnosis for the truly deserving. You know . . . the guy who's got a wife and family and several mistresses in 4 different countries. The guys who push Hep B vaccines to little babies for a $$ boost. Guys who "loan" money(that doesn't belong to them) to a few people in little countries so that they can fund a military take over and then when they can't pay back, invade the country themselves (using money that doesn't belong to them) so that they can "steal" back what was never theirs in the first place. Now that's the stuff of sociopaths. . .

the problem being that sociopaths might not even end up at the club. or the complete opposite, where more sociopaths go to clubs.

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Well you see that's what interested me so much about the book. You assume that sociopaths are these outlandishly evil people who go around reeking havoc on mankind, but most of the time they just seem like average people. It's not until you get really close to them that you start noticing odd amoral behavior, and sometimes even the closest people to them can't see it either. They can even be upstanding and productive members of society, the desire to stay out of jail prevents them from committing crimes and the desire to glorify themselves drives them to succeed in business, some even pick up a moral code like religion to compensate for their lack of conscience. The whole point of the book is that we are probably around sociopaths everyday and we have no idea because they don't stand out. Think of them less as being filled with evil (which most of them aren't), and more of them as being completely emotionless... like a Vulcan. Except as a Vulcan who can expertly mimic emotional responses without really feeling them.
Yeah I suppose you're right. But I was trying to make a point and I thought a "club" would be a better example than the cliched "walking down the street" line. I wasn't trying to imply that every club with 500 people would contain exactly 20 sociopaths. I was rather trying to make an example that would be easy to visualize and relate to. A number like 1 in 25 or 20 in 500 loses it meaning unless you relate it to real life situations. 4% sounds like a small number, but not when you are dealing with something as relevant as sociopathy.

I call her a sociopath... yall may be right. She could just be a flakey whore.

CK

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