I'm an AFC because of my childhood. I was raised by my mother and didn't have any good male influences. I only saw male/female interactions from a distance. When girls showed interest in me growing up, I got scared and didn't know how to react. I used to avoid girls who showed me interest. I do remember this girl in 6th grade who almost kissed me (interrupted by the teacher). And there was this asian girl who liked me in 7th. I then had this hispanic chick who wanted to have sex when I was in 8th grade but I stood her up.

High school was different. I think girls were more experienced at that time and sniffed out my lack of confidence. There were females in high school who probably liked me, but again... I avoided female contact at all costs. I was afraid and didn't know how to have a relationship.

I didn't go to college because I started working right away. Ever since I graduated H.S., interest from girls dropped to zero. I think a few girls showed interest at jobs I worked at but my lack of experience turned them off.

I'm now twenty-five. I never had a girlfriend but had sex with around 25 women (escorts). For the past year, I examined myself and knew that I didn't like how my life was going. I wanted to date and have sex with girls which led to my desire to transform myself.

I'm attractive. I'm not hot and I'm not ugly. But I have nice features. I'm relatively tall 5'11'' and need to gain weight. This is the first hit against my confidence since it seems like girls don't like slimmer dudes. I'm NOT skinny.

The second hit against my confidence is that it appears girls don't send me IOIs anymore. I'm not talking about older women. I'm speaking about females between 21 and 29. It sometimes feel like I'm invisible. If I do get eye contact from women, it doesn't strike me as pleasant. This is funny, but they look at me like I killed their dog. I don't get eye contact AND a smile. And when I'm in stores and there's a cute cashier, I swear they become cold when I'm next in line. I say 'thank you' and usually don't get an answer in return. They tell all the other customers "have a good day" but simply says "next" when I leave. Why does it feel like girls in my age group hate me?

Honestly, I have never approached a girl in an attempt to pick her up. The reasons are because I wanted to be confident in myself first. I'm beginning to accept my body type. I'm learning about body language and how to talk. I'm dressing better. I feel like if I approach a girl now, my success rate will be better compared to one year ago.

I'm actually moving to a part of the city with a lot of college students. My plan is to befriend guys and girls. Build a social circle since I don't have any friends and approach some girls. I still have some doubt because it seems like women are so picky. They have so many men to choose from. How can I really stand out? I'm not about lines and gimmicks. I want my game to be natural. My goals are to approach women with supreme confidence and a "don't give a shit" attitude. I hope that my approach will be more memorable than the 25 guys before me and that she feels comfortable around me. I think if you build trust and comfort, you can get most girls.

Oh, I also look young for my age. Like I said, I'm twenty-five but people have guessed my age to be anywhere from 17-22. Once I get into a conversation with someone, they can tell I'm an adult.

Facial hair doesn't help. I can grow a nice mustache, chin hair, and side burns... but cheeks are sparse. I'm dressing more mature now. And I'm trying to stop the fidgety movements I've made all my life. It's hard but I'm trying. I want to make my walk and speech more like a man. Slow and deliberate.

welcome, to start off, congrats on taking the first step which is coming out with how you feel about yourself, it's a right direction in building self confidence. You're story reminds me quite alot about my childhood, i never knew what to do or how to react around women and being mainly raise by my mother she'd always make fun of me (shame shame bs) when i showed interest in women or girls showed interest in me. However, i excelled at most other stuff i did besides women so it wasn't really hard for me to get over being 'afraid' of women when the time came. All i can say is just go for it and dont be afraid of rejection. You're goin to get rejected, but chances are if you are ashamed about it at first, chances are no one will see it and you'll never have to face that girl again in your life. Since you said you're fairly attractive and tall, that's 2 things already playing in you favor. Being slim isn't really a drawback. I mean Style wasnt really an attractive or muscular guy, infact his tone and speed of voice doesn't even fit the prefered "alpha male" characteristics. But he is successful and self confident. I'm sure he got rejected alot more than you ever will. Go out and give it a shot, u'd be surprised how many women actually want to talk to you. Gluck

PS. i hope you used protection with those escorts

I think smiling more is a great way for a girl to feel comfortable enough to talk. and not a try hard fake smile, but one that is natural. I smile sometimes because I think people are funny.

We are all here to survive and replicate. I sometimes look around see people, and I am just happy for them. Happy to see them alive. I guess I have a certain love for people. And I think some are attracted to it. I talk to girls all the time.

I try to have a positive outlook wherever I am. I hope this helps

you really payyed for escorts. Dude wtf is wrong with u. Instead of obssessing on pussy , and or sex you should focus on building confidence and bettering yourself. Once again donyt put pussy on a pedastol.

Welcome to the forum Raz. Anyone can become a PUA, you just gotta put effort in it. You cant cheat yourself and your willpower to over come fears and stuff you are uncomfortable with has to be great. I would work on your inner game alittle, but it seem now you have that little confidence, i mean you are here now asking for help. Thats the first step in becoming a great PUA. Its not gonna be an easy road. You'll hit roadblocks and set back many many times but i urge you to keep going forward. Not only this lifestyle will help you pick up girls but it can open up many other oppertunities in your life. Dont be scare to get ridiculed, Just take what you need and apply it to your own person. I myself is into the Natural game and majority of the PUA here are to. Just keep asking question, learn and applying it in the field.You must apply it in the field. Practice makes perfect. If you fail, try over and over again. Most importanly like i said, DONT CHEAT YOURSELF. Your not here to impress us or anyone on this forum, your here to better yourself. Feel free to ask us question, but similar question might have been ask. The Search button is your best friend once again welcome!

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Natural game, your born with it, or you can learn it. You going to do the latter.

The routines constructed from mystery, style and those smiling faces you see at the top of this page, are all tried and tested. That's where they draw power, its like if you were given a bow and arrow and told to kill a deer. You know it can be done, and after hours of failing to shoot the bow right, knowing that it works is the only thing that will drive you on. More and more and more practice. Until it all clicks and you make your kill.

If you put the hours into PUA, you will be a pick up artist. The first step would be to use the scripted material (Opener) until your feel competent at approaching woman.

Also, if you feel you need to beef up a little, there a work out plan that's a sure thing. P90X. I get the feeling you have the money and facility's to get the most out of it.

Finlay, the three golden rules of PUA are...

1. Be willing to try new things, even if they don't seem logical.
2. Be willing to take criticism, but don't take it personally.
3. Its always your fault, never the woman's, if something goes wrong, learn from your mistakes. And you'll be a champion in no time.

If you have any questions, don't hesitate to ask either myself or anyone ells on this forum. That's what were here for, after all.


Welcome and good luck.