So I met this girl online and we hit it off.

I usually wait longer to try to set up a date, but I got a lot of really direct IOIs and indirect suggestions that she wanted to meet, so I asked her if she wanted to go for a coffee and she said sure right away.

So this Monday we set up a date for this Wednesday, just a meet up, nothing fancy.

Last night I text her to see if we could postpone the date for an hour later. No reply.

This morning I text her again to know if our meet up was still up. No reply


I have absolutely no idea why this happened, as the girl had said how she thought I was a lot like her, how she was feeling lonely, how she couldn't find anyone worthwhile and so on.


So she's just ignoring me at the moment, as soon as I turned on my Msn this morning, she turned off hers like 10 seconds later.

Should I text her something like: "Well I made other plans, since you don't really looked interested in meeting me anymore. Was nice chatting with you anyway"

Should I tell her to fuck off, or should I just do nothing and wait to see if she gets back at me?

Thanks for the help guys

Telling her to fuck of, is a bit childsh...let her be, maybe she had a problem, or she figured is out,that u were to hasty, wich u were, and now she's playing hard to get.
Thing is nowadays this thing happens alot, and I had a similar problem, and that was after i met the chick, and kclosed.Belive me, some girls go for woman's intuition, and if that is telling her u're bad, it's kinda game over...or maybe she's playing hard to get.
Like i said some girls, have alot of contenders, and nowadays takes alot more then some fancy words, tastefull music,etc...to impress them.
My advice, move on, id u think about it to hard it's will harm u.

so I messaged her: "Well I made other plans, since you don't really look interested in meeting me anymore. Was nice chatting with you anyway. And as this is probably my last message to you, so I wish you good luck with your life"

which apparently worked because like 10 minutes later I got her calling me. I didn't answer the phone.

then a few minutes later texted me saying she had just woken up because she was with some friends from work last night and she has to meet them again tonight and asked if we could do this another day. But that she would never dream of leaving me hanging.

Which I know is at least partially bullshit because I saw her online on MSN like 4 hours ago and she logged in on the site where we've met at 3am last night.


I think I'm gonna leave her hanging for a few hours, thinking she blew it and then just text her something like: sure, we'll see, have a nice day.

the ball's in my court now and I'll have to play hard to get now.

any advice?

Sweet comeback dartagnan. I was in a similar situation like yours a few days ago!
Now it's your time to flake on her! Here's what to do:

Text her and say you want to go for drinks tomorrow night.

If you don't get a reply back within an hour say: "I suppose you're not interested, so I'm going with someone else already, too bad. It was nice to meet you" something along the lines of your previous text.

Now if she does respond positively, wait until 2 hours for the actual date and text: "hey (name)! I'm afraid I can't make it for tonight. I've get some other stuff to do"

She will be very curious about you now(what other stuff, another girl in his life? I'm not his priority!) thus generate more attraction.

Good luck,
mister boss

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sure, we'll see, have a nice day.

I like it...that response shows you don't NEED her, perfect. Just make sure you follow through, don't switch gears if she starts to show you 'some' attention. Keep the ball in your court at all costs.

I can not agree with 'mister boss's' response, it seems a bit childish.

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yes mister boss's comeback on a neg feedback is childish.if u get a neg feedback, drop her,no need to act like that.
Mate listen here, she digs u, like's to play, so watch out...from your enthuziasm u dig her to, otherwise, u woul've droped her...
There are always 2 sides of the story, a she's playing u,with this waiting game, and u're playing along, stop it, you are getting to into it, mistake, u think to much, sabotaging your time.Chick's love atittude, but keep it light,or u'll end up as beeing a jerk.I mean wtf dude, she isn't your gf, stop threatening that u wont call her or shit like that.
And the other side, learn to wait if u're gonna play the hard to get,remember u opened her, u're a stanger, in her book,seeam intersting, and make her want to meet u, or u'll sound desperate.Chill down, foot of the gas, work your game, sell her bullshit, make urself sound like a cool guy,that knows what u want, not a jerk,and be funny, and cocky, but not the macho guy that get's pissed easly,
Learn, improve, adapt.
Best of luck

No ffs!!!!

Don't do anything and I mean it. Whatever move you make but ignoring her is chode and needy.. Don't stoop to that level!!

Your first reply.. Totally chode, she see you just told her that to answer or to get jealous and answer.

Never ask a woman to fuck off if she isn't directly rude to you. Srsly women respond to what you make them feel.

If she doesn't reply, it's YOUR fault. Please do not put the blame on her.. You won't learn anything from it!

If she didn't replied after your "late" message, you're not the one who should reinitiate the convo again. If she doesn't answer, it's her loss.

To text her again was very fail. Unfortunately you totally showed neediness, not good dude.

What to do!

Ignore her, it's already blown. Don't message her, don't consider seeing if she's online, it will make it worse! If she message you, play her game OK?! Play hard to get, act like she's losing you in every fucking move she make. Make her work to get to you. If you do this right, you're simply playing her game, and the same game almost every woman on this fucking planet play, it will drive her crazy!

Meet some new women.

update:

she tried to talk to me on msn, I pretended I wasn't here, I texted her:

I don't know, maybe if you ask nicely, I'll consider it. Have a great day.

and she answered:

Again I'm really sorry, I have so much on my head at the moment. Hope if I ask nicely, we can meet up later.

followed by a playful remark about the way I called her.



So where to go from here. I'm thinking do nothing, and let her approach me online next time, make her work for my attention and don't bring up the subject of meeting up unless she mentions it?

Am I doing this right?

Btw this is a very smart solid HB9 I'm talking about

I think you have to be carefull about the frame you are giving. You don't want to be in a "I'm pissed because you didn't show up so I'll be bitchy about it" frame. You want to have a " I'm a busy, desired guy. If you don't want to do things with me it's ok because I got plenty of other interesting things to do. I am interested in you and will like to know you, however I won't go out of my way to do so."

See the difference?

In any case. She apologized and changed her behavior a bit. So keep acting like the prize, but be playfull and nice again. Invite her along to tag up with you for some casual stuff or join her if you would like to but let her know you have other alternative, and let her know how much fun she missed if she does flake again.

wouldnt be wise to play hard-ball to much, cause if you keep blowing her off she'll think your just to hard to get ( depending on the girl) and she'll lose intrest in you. I think you made your point. Now you need to arrange it where you give her a false time constraint like a pick-up say... "hey lets go get coffee (ect ect) for a few hours. I dont have much time cause i got plans with some co-workers but we can chill ". Seems to work for me doing online meet-ups. gives her the choice of meeting you and yet you dont seem so needy since you already have plans. You gotta remember sometimes its creepy just meeting someone offline So that was probably the hesitation she had for flaking you the first time.

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Ok dude... you have to stop with this logical shit... This "talk some common sense into her" frame isn't and is never going to work until you're like a couple or married.

Stop blowing her off logically. Making her apologize for flaking you is not a good way. It will only make the tension between you awkward.

I'm a busy, desired guy. If you don't want to do things with me it's ok because I got plenty of other interesting things to do. I am interested in you and will like to know you, however I won't go out of my way to do so."

Write this down on a sticky and keep it on your refrigerator, read it whenever you feel yourself slipping into wussy behavior.

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I think style dealt with something like this in the annihilation method. Tell her you're going out if she wants to join you she can. On the day you're supposed to go out call and say you're gonna be a little late. That way you'll know if she's going to flake (because she'll say she can't make it) and you increase your status because you're a busy guy who's got a life and hasn't been spending the entire day preparing for when you're about to meet her . It was something to that effect.
Anyway this girl sounds like she's gaming you dude lol. Showing she's got a life and it doesn't revolve around you...which I guess we call hard to get. Just let her know it's the other way around. And listen to the guys who replied before me...they know what they're talking about.

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I think style dealt with something like this in the annihilation method. Tell her you're going out if she wants to join you she can. On the day you're supposed to go out call and say you're gonna be a little late. That way you'll know if she's going to flake (because she'll say she can't make it) and you increase your status because you're a busy guy who's got a life and hasn't been spending the entire day preparing for when you're about to meet her . It was something to that effect.
Anyway this girl sounds like she's gaming you dude lol. Showing she's got a life and it doesn't revolve around you...which I guess we call hard to get. Just let her know it's the other way around. And listen to the guys who replied before me...they know what they're talking about.

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Next her. When you truly get an abundance mindset something really funny happens its like women can sense it and they know they wone' get a second chance. Thats when they come running back