I heard from one of my co-workers that if you dont wind up getting someone's number that you like that you're gonna regret it forever. I was thinking about that and thought "Why would you regret it? Its the past, something that you can't go back and do again. Just live for the here and now". I've even seen it on here to an extent. It makes me think, why? Why would you regret something that you can't fix? Why not just live for the next time you go out or like someone?

I can see how someone with a scarcity minset can have that kind of regret, cuz who knows how amny days/months/years it could be until he has another chance.

Such a person cannot believe he has the potential to go meet 10 girls the next day and he dwells on the missed oppurtunity and it depresses the lonely out of him. It just reenforces the self destructive cycle that prevents him from getting results.

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Ah, I've gotten over that....

But I honestly can't bring myself to regret missed opps in my past as its something that I can't fix.

Yup totally. And that all makes sense to me logically, however in reality, for me, it dosnt work out that way, as much as id love it to. If I dont get the number or the lay or I pass up an opportunity, I instantly feel the regret. Which brings about fairly high levels of anxiety, followed by self punishment as I replay the scenario in my head as I try to figure out what I could have done differently. Which often i havnt a clue which leads to further frustration and regret. Its a cycle I find hard to get out of, even when i dont logically care at all. total afc stuff, but it often takes over my reality as i dwell on it. I hate it and wish I could change it, and a i try. but no matter how many times i read 'the power of now', in the moment, the anxiety and regret take over for far too long.

But yes like you said, i dont have the option to go meet 10 girls tomorrow. So yes if there were another 9 lined up after, and i had the tools to not make a tool out of myself, then i doubt id have the time to regret. although i dont know if thatll ever go away.

You shouldn't feel any regret AT ALL for that one. That was done under your own volition for whatever reason. If I pass up an opp. I dont feel bad about it because I didn't care at that moment to try so why should I now?

Everyone knows what you are saying is true but the reason is that some people aren't aware of this enough and just because you know something doesn't mean you emotionally own it - this comes through experience which backs up knowledge with emotion.

Well for me, I own it.......but obviously not for other people, if thats what you were thinking...

..........and that means?

exactly for what you said, "It's the past, you can't go back and do it again"

you cant possibly know if that would have ended up with the best thing that happened to you...

there are a myriad ways to lose an opportunity, but not even a single way to get it back, man.. dont waste it

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They can because they think they can

Thats the thing with me, I dont care if I miss an opportunity seeing as its not a big deal if I get with someone or not. I mean, yeah it would be nice, but I dont obsess over it like alot of others do.

Example of this: A couple of my buddies and I were at the bar last night playing pool and I noticed a girl at the end of the bar. Her and I made eye contact and smiled at each other but I didn't say anything seeing as my friends were there. I dont feel bad about it though.

well i missed a girl - i dont have her number .... damn

well a day later i met a girl who looked better, damn i got her number .... too bad i don't have the one i met yesterday.

you know what i mean, you don't have to approach every girl.

this is what i learned in the army :

you don't have to fight battles as long you fight the ones that really matter !

you don't have to approach every girl or whatever , if you really fall in love with someone and you fuck up - ok then you may dwell in stupidity, loneliness and self damaging thoughts

gaming girls is like a video game... if you empty your gun just hit the reload button, and don't forgot unconciously you don't approach some people. some people just like blondes and when they approach a brunette they often miss because they are not attracted to that person which result in less training and skill.

do you really care to miss one when- tomorrow you get a better one ?

just see every action as a advantage ( or good thing )

maybe that HB 10 you missed was a GDamn bipolair bitch.
MAybe that HB 9 you missed had aids or some influenza.

and who cares ... this is your world hit the gdamn reload button

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Keep in mind that your personal way of viewing the world determines your end result psychological state. The greatest ways to learn is to go in and "fail", as your body will do what it takes to auto correct those mistakes. It all begins from when you were a baby reaching for the bottle and you couldn't get your fingers to make a clamp, it took you many amount of painful tries but then your body created the brain connections to make it possible.

Same principle with the above.

Never have regrets, always learning from mistakes, and always view things positively.

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Thats a very good way analogy and way to look at the situation. Thanks =)

I think that's the worst advice that can be handed down to someone on this forum. I don't agree with the above.

Women are not computer games, nor should you entail the psychology of going out to such a mindset, its just so wrong.

Women are women, and they are catty and feminine, don't take them seriously if they are rude.. most of them don't mean it, they act on emotions as we act on logic. But this is no computer game lol AND ITS NOT THE ARMY!

The army is run to ensure the wealth $$$$$$$$$ of a country, that's why we invade Iraq.. so Americans have fuel to run and be the world power. Any advice from that type of organization, no matter how heart full should be lookt at very carefully, especially if your about to integrate it to your daily life. BE CAREFUL!

And this HB stuff has to stop, women are not numbers. Stop being THAT superficial. I get it! we are men, we like titis and a face, cool, but there is more to a woman, and its somewhat important too!

HB is very degrading, to both you and her. By assigning her a number you entail the psychology behind it, making her a more or less valuable individual. Its true that WE (men) go for looks first, but at the same time we have to be mindful of our psychology as men.

We cant go around doing this value bullshit otherwise the whole world will seem like some type of accounting bill! you will have to pay for some things more and for other things less. In plain words, youll freak out if you see a "hb10" as opposed to a "Hb4" and the attitude you develop in your mindset will unstabilize your performance in field.

so... is she like a 10? or a 8? or a 6?

you know this fucking thing dosn't even work for when you want to calibrate your Mystery method game. Some 6's think they are 10's and vice versa.

Don't use that system under any circumstance!

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And Corey please open your fucking eyes and think about it! (no disrespect intended whatsoever).

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And we don't GAME girls, we meet women! We don't go out to PICKUP but we go out for a adventure and anything that comes out is a bonus.
You approach if you feel a connection, that's what its all about. if you feel it she will feel it too, your playing in her sandpit now, she understands.
This is not super mario. If you make a mistake take responsibility and learn from it, don't go and fuck off to the next woman as you'll forget the interaction you just screwed up. Down the road you'll make the same mistake again. I understand this religious copy paste bs you guys are doing from Eric, but I'm sure he intended it to be used more smartly then how you guys are using it. Adopting what someone says is often difficult as one word can entail 50 different meanings.

And no offense but Eric is no god. Don't over power a human being and the strength of his words, we are all flesh and make mistakes. Allot of what we say can be valid, but its not gospel.

You are all equal to each other and anyone you meet, no one is better or worse, or higher or lower, there is no ranking system. There is your interpretation of the world. Use your own tools, stop stealing mindsets from others, or learning mindsets which have not been mastered.

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video games and talking to woman are both the same - fun -
its a game - a social game, you can be the guy who is 100 % serious ... be my guest - but i often go out with the mindset '' i wanna make friends and have fun'' and if a woman rejects me who cares, there are 200 better woman with better personalities

talking and communicating to people must be fun, you must like surfing humanity and all those personalities it's not a life or death situation ( well some guys lol ... ) its a game because there is nothing to loose.

woman are not numbers , objects or whatever.
metafor i learned in the army is just a harmless metafor - meaning only approach girls you would like or like. approaching the girl that you like in your class etc , just approach and win the girl who you love. don't be a seduction machine that rates or seduces every girl around the block... this isn't good for your local reputation as well.

woman aren't rude - some people are rude with reasons , some woman get approached 20 times a day by men or maybe the person lost her job that day - thats why they have a bitch shield. You don't know what happened so don't make a big deal.

HB stuff i agree ... numbers aren't important they won't always contribute to a good conversation or relationship - we all know that other things are important as well. if you approach a stranger you don't know anything about him/her thats why we often rate on the outside rather then the inside this is normal human psychology - woman with big tits and good hip ratio are healthier ( we are still animals ) would you approach a stranger with a bruised eye and a split lip ? no you rather approach someone else.
of course there are always assholes that completely rate on the outside and don't care about the inside ( personality ).

And this is your world , you perspective - if you are that asshole that enjoy using girls as objects and fuck them then do it . if this makes you happy then do it, but im not like that. Im not the person to tell anyone what to do or not do - you can only judge yourself.

so... is she like a 10? or a 8? or a 6?

don't forgot this whole society is based on looks - everywhere you see models and stuff. 100 years ago it was all based on other things instead of looks, the society made this system.

but of course this ''6'' girl has alot of humor which in my opinion makes her a ''8'' what you rate and why you rate is up to you, like i said you only judge your own system.

Some 6's think they are 10's and vice versa.

well just neg the shit out of her in the right way and she will think shes a 4 ....

''And Corey please open your fucking eyes and think about it! (no disrespect intended whatsoever). ''

Corey understands what i mean , impact you are making a cliche and melodramatic vision and misses the point tho i still understand and respect your opinion.

gaming and meeting are both fun , and if your connected you can pickup - how and why you pickup is up to you , just do what makes you happy.

you don't have to approach every girl or whatever ,
Y''ou approach if you feel a connection, that's what its all about. if you feel it she will feel it too, your playing in her sandpit now, she understands. ''

yep this is what its about

eric is no god or whatever - he still makes mistakes and he still gets rejected he just grabbed some psychological hotstuff and rewriten it in a uderstandable compact package.
When you play a video game and you get killed or jump into a ravine you learn from it so you can evade/solve it next time, the same is with meeting woman you won't die in real life.
It's a game if you don't like meeting woman ( i rather say people ) then don't do it

there is one note i like to give.... other people have emotions as well and you are responsible for your own actions ... actions that can hurt other people - WOMAN ARE NOT OBJECTS OR WHATSOEVER.

''You are all equal to each other and anyone you meet, no one is better or worse, or higher or lower, there is no ranking system. There is your interpretation of the world. Use your own tools, stop stealing mindsets from others, or learning mindsets which have not been mastered.'''

we are not equal ... budhism teaches we are equal ..... most people who go to the church still rate on status and outside appearance,.
This whole society TEACHES US from early stage that we are not equal at all, not everyone gets the same amount of respect.
im a buddhist and i believe everyone is equal i just use rating systems as part of this forum.

You can steal mindsets or ideas from other people, like bruce lee said '' what works for one cannot always work for another''
just pickup / copy / steal whatever suits you - only use things that benefit you. if if you can't do maths but are great at learning languages .. then just concentrate on your language and get a career in that section ( if you like ).

The only mindset that is mastered is the mindset that suits / fits you
when it benefits you then this mindset has achieved its goal, then its mastered.