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PostPosted: Mon Aug 10, 2009 5:28 am 
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I recall some guy writing to David DeAngelo and complaining that too many girls were becoming attracted to him. Now, I'm certainly not complaining here, but I'm getting girls revealing their emotions very early on.

After I've gone through the attraction and comfort stages. They're telling me that they're attracted to me. Which is great, but they're asking me if I'm attracted to them, or starting to test me on my stance on serious relationships. Like whether I think sex is important in a serious relationship or going through the list of questions about my past. I'm keeping it as light as I can using C&F and not being all wuss and declaring my interests too early. Although, I have to say that warning bells are going off when girls go like this, but in my experience they nearly all seem to at some point before seduction or straight after it.

But as anyone got any general advice for this area.

I learnt the harsh lesson of telling someone how I felt before, on a few ocassions and it never worked out, not once. I'm not going there again, but I don't want to make the mistake of her thinking I'm not interested. I'm using subcommunication, a lot of push-pull, confusing them, teasing. But not all girls are great at reading this especially where I'm living at present.

Should I take all those questions that they throw out their about how many gfs I've had, how many one nights I've had, my views on sex in a relationship etc. Because one girl asked me about all of it. I was about to run for the hills, but stayed and ploughed through. Was tough I can tell you.

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Keep doing what's working.

If they want to know if you like them (really like them) and you really do like them
and want to have something with one of them, then like all PUA's say, "We do this
so we can find that ONE special female that we want to spend our life with."

Let that one special girl know that you really do like her and want to have a
relationship with her. Just remember what got her in the first place, you can't slack
off and become a little bitch. Be the person that she fell in love with in the first place,
be the guy that you were when you got her. Don't bitch out.. if you do, she will
move on to another guy who plays the game and sticks to his guns.

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PostPosted: Mon Aug 10, 2009 5:58 am 
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Thanks for the response. I understand what you're saying. It seems that a couple of the girls I've gamed recently seem a bit lonely and are desperate for a relationship. They think they've found the one and are willing to give me a chance. However, I believe in leaving a woman better than when you met her and I'm not into lying and mistreating them.

I know I need to be open and honest with them. But I'm also trying to keep that mystery shroud around me. I don't want to show them my hand if you get my meaning. This is a tricky part of relationships I find. It's a fine line.

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PostPosted: Mon Aug 10, 2009 10:14 am 
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If you feel the same, great.
However, if your finding these girls are getting really into you but you only like them a bit then your not managing expectations.
This is why it is really important to make clear early on in the interaction what your intentions are - looking for a GF, fuck buddie, ONS whatever. This way, if the girl know's your only looking for a ONS, she will either be up for it or she won't - but either way she wont fall in love with you and get a shock when things don't work out how she THOUGHT you both wanted them to.
All you can do is be honest about your feelings, obviously don't tell a girl you met 5mins ago you love her, but if you seriously see yourself liking a girl and she tells you she is interested, be honest with her. "yeah, I like you a bit more than I probably should admit" or something like that. What they are looking for is reassurance that they aren't going to have their heart broken by you, you don't have to go over the top early on and have a serious "I think I love you, from the moment I met you" type thing, just make it apparent, that if you do honestly like her more seriously, she knows it.
Does that makes sense?


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Ha ha.

Yeah I had a girl take me on a day 2. She did her hair and make-up. Apparently she was feeling ill but still came out to meet me. She took me back to her car and asked straight out what I was looking for and that she wanted something serious.

This is all on a day 2! I wasn't interested. My advice, like the rest, is be honest.

But ultimately, you DON'T have to declare you like the girl. Your ACTIONS will convey that to her.

Answer her questions, be cocky funny.

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suck to be you men, u got too many girls chasing u? and u made it though?? ahahahah

just kiddin I'm in a kinda similar situation, except that Im attracting a bit more UG that I wished I was.. still Im calibrating my way out of gPUAdom

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I recall some guy writing to David DeAngelo and complaining that too many girls were becoming attracted to him. Now, I'm certainly not complaining here, but I'm getting girls revealing their emotions very early on.

After I've gone through the attraction and comfort stages. They're telling me that they're attracted to me. Which is great, but they're asking me if I'm attracted to them, or starting to test me on my stance on serious relationships. Like whether I think sex is important in a serious relationship or going through the list of questions about my past. I'm keeping it as light as I can using C&F and not being all wuss and declaring my interests too early. Although, I have to say that warning bells are going off when girls go like this, but in my experience they nearly all seem to at some point before seduction or straight after it.

But as anyone got any general advice for this area.

I learnt the harsh lesson of telling someone how I felt before, on a few ocassions and it never worked out, not once. I'm not going there again, but I don't want to make the mistake of her thinking I'm not interested. I'm using subcommunication, a lot of push-pull, confusing them, teasing. But not all girls are great at reading this especially where I'm living at present.

Should I take all those questions that they throw out their about how many gfs I've had, how many one nights I've had, my views on sex in a relationship etc. Because one girl asked me about all of it. I was about to run for the hills, but stayed and ploughed through. Was tough I can tell you.

YOU are doing good and dont give in. Girls would often complain and some of them would even say that I'm breaking off with you because you dont tell me how many girlfriends you have or are you seeing someone else. Just be C&F and make them feel how rediculous they sound. Believe me these are all tanturms that girls would throw all the time. I am speaking from experience. Not one has broken off with me because I have not told them something about myself.


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