so i was just reading and I heard about buyer's remorse.....when a girl won't keep in contact with you cause she's embarrassed that she went too far with you too early.

Is this why i've had 10 same night lays and not a single follow up date with any of them in the last six months?

Yes, iether that or the sex was bad

kiddin bro, but yes thats buyer's remorse. In some cases, though few, there would be women who would just want a one night stand and nothing more. But if you have had this 10 times then I would say you are giving them a buyer's remorse.

how can I not give them buyer's remorse? just don't have sex with them on the first night?

I always figured it would bethe other way around. I would think a girl would have sex with a guy, and then wouldn't want to regard herself as a slut, so she should try to get ahold of the guy.

How not to give them a buyer's remorse Thts an interesting question You would have to tell us how do you go about getting these girls in the first place. The palce (bar/clubs), what you say and then how do you lead to getting them back etc etc.. Once you share that then we could try to tell you what you could do differently at which phase of your game for her not to have a buyer's remorse.

She would get a buyer's remorse mainly when she is in a trance and in that trance you have sex with her. Like a lot of button pushes etc.... But if you do enough push & pull and make her want you like crazy then the chances of her getting a buyer's remorse is minimized. If there is enough comfort and attraction and an emotional connection on some level then she is less likely to feel a buyer's remorse.

Unless you give a discription of how you are pulling these girls its tough to say where you are going wrong.

Simply, less buying temperature, more REAL attraction and comfort, lots of comfort. And good bedside manners AFTER sex not before or during.

Make sense?

I get all these girls at parties, same night lays.

I think this might be it. I haven't ever thought of that before....this could actually help me in a situation i'm in right now.


I think i'm lazy so I take the path of least resistance. I'll do freeze outs if I need to, but i usually don't conciously push-pull girls unless i need to. Therefore I get just enough comfort for them to have sex with me.

This makes perfect sense. I used to be bad at reading when a girl is comfortable enough to have sex, but the better i'm becoming at that skill, the more i'm sabotaging myself....the sex is worse because I rush it too much. I'm rushing the interaction so there's "buying pressure" and she has buyer's remorse the next day. Back in the day I would have sex a girl and the sex would be great and she would call me the next day. This was due to the fact that there was extra comfort and a real emotional connection. This is the part of my game I need to work on right now.

thanks a lot marc for the help.